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@Shufei
Luckily i had only a few of these teachers, but also some amazing good ones

About similar tests, i get sometimes the impression that the true intention was to test if a person is smart, for the definition of "smart" that they can
- correctly identify the context
- extrapolate what is really wanted versus following what was literally asked
and
- solve it like a "normal" person is supposed to interact well with society
@woozle @alstonvicar @zyd @miss__Tery @dorgaldir @actuallyautistic

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@Laberpferd @Shufei @alstonvicar @zyd @miss__Tery
Yep. The phrase "the Bell Curve mentality" comes to mind -- testing for "intelligence", by which they mean cultural similarity to the tester... :-P

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Tonight, I'm overthinking idioms.

"I trust him about as far as I can throw him."

As an #ActuallyAutistic person, this one baffled me. What does your ability to throw them have to do with their trustworthiness? After awhile, I just accepted that these things don't always make much sense, but the idea behind them is what's important.

Well tonight I'm here to propose (unseriously) that there is infact a deeper meaning!

"I trust him about as far as I can throw him," means you don't trust him. But, if taken literally, if you could throw him pretty far, then you'd trust him, right?

If you're a manipulative or controlling person, then your ability to move someone else around a given space is important to you. As someone with a background in horse training, I can tell you that the one who yields or moves out of the way is submissive to the one pushing. This may seem obvious, but it's important in small interactions, not just big, sweeping gestures. If someone looks like they might be trying to move past you, and you scooch out of their way to let them, you are submitting to them. In a reasonable society, that's called "working together" and "being polite". In a herd hierarchy, or a manipulative relationship, it's about someone taking your space, and it'll be performed multiple times just to enforce the hierarchy.

(I want to make it clear that this has nothing to do with D/s relationships and dynamics. That is a very specific niche, and has nothing to do with these ramblings.)

Back to the idiom. If you're a controlling person, and you can't control someone else's movements, because they're too stubborn, or can fend you off, or you're not strong enough, then you're not likely to want much to do with them. You can't trust them, because they're not in your control.

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@anomalon There are a lot of ways to overthink that idiom, but I think the message meant to be conveyed is "I don't trust him out of my sight."
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ooh that's an interesting take, I never thought of it like that. I always took it as, kind of sarcastic? Similar to a lot of "southernisms". "He couldn't pour water out of a boot with instructions on the heel" isn't literal, it's meant to convey his stupidity with an imaginary scenario. It's funny how the same phrase can be understood in so many ways 😂

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i love how the tl posts stuff and sometimes i'm just like: oh yeah i had the same brainworm, i'll link you to my post

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A new instance and a new introduction.

I joined Mastodon in Nov. 2022. I was not of the twitter wave. This was in fact my first ever social media site I ever joined and still the only one that I'm on. It was simply a step on my autism awareness journey and a reaching out to others like me. I cannot express how much I've learnt and grown as a consequence and how much I value this place and all those I have met within it.

For the purpose of clarity and should anyone want to know. I am self-diagnosed and quite content to remain that way. I also hate the term self-diagnosed and much prefer self-realised. For this is a far more accurate and precise way of describing the process of discovery that I went through. Because no one wakes up one morning and just decides that they are autistic. It takes months, or even years in my case, to be able to convince ourselves, often against our own desires and judgement, that we are.

Diagnosis also implies that this is a medical condition and that what I am doing by self-diagnosing is essentially playing doctor, when only an official diagnosis can reveal that truth. Just like it does with most things medical. But autism, at its core, is a neurological difference not a disorder (although some of the things that can come with it most certainly are) and whilst at the moment it is diagnosable, so was being a homosexual once.

Because the harsh truth is that anything that is different from, will almost always be recognised only as a deviation from and a fault with, until it is properly understood and in my own small way, this is what I'm trying to do and to help others to do.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

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our eldest took to using the potty relatively well (heavy emphasis on relatively). Which naturally means our second is going to be an absolute nightmare right?

That's how everything else has gone.



Maybe I should pin a post or add it to the description or something that I'm Jewish Anti-Zionist and don't tolerate the bullshit "criticism of Israel's war crimes is antisemitism" narrative...

Yeah... I think I'm going to add that to the description, because if someone is going to defederate because they think the Israeli government is synonymous with the entire Jewish people, or think they can just conveniently ignore war crimes and colonialism because people on the other side have also done bad things...

Hell, I'll even tag myself in #fediblock if people want to take the trash out for me.

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Oh wait, already did... maybe I need to make it more prevalent?

(Edited as based on a reply it was far too easily misread. Previously said "Admin is a Jew" and it never dawned on me that someone could think it meant the admin of the zionist server rather than myself)

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i mean this is literally just saying the quiet part out loud isn't it. "blocking this server because the admin is a Jew... err, a Zionist."

amazing that they then have the gall to put a little asterisk next to racism and explain that they don't tolerate dogwhistles. apparently foghorns are okay though.

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@Psy Chuan :therian: okay, that definitely needs clarification and I hadn't realized... fixing that now. "admin is a Jew" is talking about myself, not the server being blocked.
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oh goodness i am so sorry i thought that screenshot was of someone putting out a block report for you, i'm sorry i came off so hostile.
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Not a Zionist, but fairly sure Zionists also acknowledge that Israel has committed lots of war crimes and atrocities.

Obviously your server your rules, but I have found no matter how strenuously you tell people otherwise, people will label you a Zionist as soon as they find your views on Israel politically inconvenient.

I just feel that the people who most need to see that don't read bios and pinned posts.

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@raf 🟣 I mean I'm not taking the angle of "don't you dare call me a zionist" but rather that from my side of things modern zionism, especially in the US equates to a fervent belief that Israel is synonymous with Judaism and any criticism of Israel is antisemitic.

This kicked off especially from the fediblock post in which someone was rallying against the EndAntisemitism account for it's labeling of any criticism of Israel's military action in Gaza as antisemitic and the ensuing accusations.

While I think the fediblock post was poorly handled, I do agree with the fundamentals underneath that it's not remotely acceptable to label criticism of the Israeli government to be inherently antisemitic.

Mostly, I'm just cranky and ranting. I'm not worried about being called a Zionist at any point... only time it can maybe happen with my views is if I'm talking to someone who is advocating the immediate abrupt abolition of the country.

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As the person who operates the EndAntisemitism account, I feel what it does and how it operates was grossly mischaracterised.

I literally label every post with why I think it's antisemitism. NONE of the reasons are about the military actions taken by the IDF. I stress repeatedly that if a reader disagrees with the report, they can just ignore it.

I criticise the Israeli govt regularly both publicly and privately. But the idea that no criticism of the Israeli government can be antisemitic is absurd and nonsensical.

We used to be mufos so I feel you should have some sense of where I stand on all this bullshit. We live in a world where Ilan Pappe and Norm Finkelstein have both been called Zionists. No one is immune from being called a Zionist and harassed shortly afterwards.

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@raf 🟣 Mufos?

Since you're the one running the account I do think it's lacking in detail on those particular callouts then.

To be clear, I've only blocked one person in all of this and that was only a personal block rather than a server block.

I will admit to unfollowing you but there's no spite, we're just somewhat different in values there (ie. we draw the line in different places) and it's less about who you are as a person and really just more about what shows up in my feed (ie. posts you comment on, etc where too much of what was showing up in my feed related to your activity is just on the other side of the line from me)

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To be clear, you don't have to justify unfollowing. I'm just more saying we are likely not all the different.

I only have 500 characters on that account and the label set is restricted. So there is some shorthand. When I say "Holocaust inversion" I mean comparing what some Jews are doing to the Holocaust. When I say "Nazi inversion" I mean comparing Jews to Nazis.

Some people don't think that constitutes antisemitism. Some do. I'd like to think people can talk about the atrocities in Gaza without mentioning Hitler and Auschwitz, mostly because the vast majority of people on the network do just that.

I am constantly refining and raising my standards, and I already put in way more effort into each of my reports than most Fediblocks I've seen.

You say those callouts, but Ned did not point to a single callout. And ignored all requests made of him to link directly to a single problematic one.

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@raf 🟣 Perhaps in the the description of your account make a note along the lines of "if it's a disputed topic, we err on the side of reporting so that you can make the decision yourself"

I think that clears the air alot

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@Shiri Bailem I know! I hate it when people say that any criticism of Israel is antisemitic.

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Daddy Issues: The Mecha Anime

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This goes out to the other #trans people in the Fediverse, let's destroy the myth that "you're too old" to start transitioning later in life. I started hormones when I was 35 and my changes have been amazing..

..how old were YOU when you started your transition or HRT?

Please boost for visibility :)

#transgender

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I came out as trans when I was 23, but I didn't start testosterone until last year - a full 10 years later!


Had a really long night at a charity LARP event I was invited to, I thought I felt slightly pretty for a moment in the last one picture I shared... But after last night I felt much much more happy and sure of myself.

Edit: alt-text provided by @Janet Logan 🏳️‍⚧️

#selfie #transfemme

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"would you rather have a dead child or a live transitioned child?" isn't a proposition, a threat, or emotional blackmail - it's fucking reality. the act of denying gender-affirming care to trans youth amounts to a literal, active genocide.

if you don't support trans children's, teens', and young adults' ability to transition, then you're a genocide apologist.

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in a way, my generation was lucky. sure, we lived through ace ventura, jerry springer, and all sorts of other media that continually told us that we were disgusting sexual perverts. yes, we lived through gay jokes on the playground and insinuations that any gender nonconformity we took part in was deviant.

but when people spoke about us, it was through stray quips and derogatory comments - not our being very publicly, outspokenly labeled a social plague at the very highest levels of government.

I can't imagine what people like me are going through right now - how sad, fearful, and depressed they must feel.

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Twitter just doing a "redirect links in tweets that go to x.com to twitter.com instead but accidentally do so for all domains that end x.com like eg spacex.com going to spacetwitter.com" is not absolutely the funniest thing I could imagine but it's high up there

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@pseudonym @selenalarson When you drive off all the programmers and all you have left is lemons, go ahead and make yourself some lemonade.

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Because they bring me such joy, I will share with you all the software testing videos I share with my Software Design and Development students.

Video 1/3: “We don’t need user testing! We already know our users”

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Video 3/3 (I feel this one •deeply•, to the bone):

“Developer watching QA test the product”

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this whole thread is spectacular. The spectator's face as they put the circle through the square, the kids sliding down the hill, all of it. Glorious!
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@geoffreyconley
We’ve all been her.

I told the students, “If your user test doesn’t make you feel like that sometimes, you’re either not testing soon enough or not testing hard enough.”

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now if I could just figure out an appropriate way to reference these when an exec or client tries to de-prioritize user testing
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all three were hilarious. Thanks for posting. These videos answer so many questions.
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@fulanigirl
I once had a student say (I think of the second one? I forget) that they didn’t really understand the terminology from the reading until they watched the video.

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Now is your moment to shine 🌞🌚

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It's so crazy that during the return phase (without looking seeing this post) I made almost the same joke to my family. Love it!

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looking for software/infrastructure job in Germany, :boost_requested:​

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looking for software/infrastructure job in Germany, :boost_requested:​

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Felt pretty, not just slightly cute, today for the first time...
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hey, just so you know, this status includes an attachment with missing accessibility (alt) text.

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Controversial opinions on education and the work force

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Controversial opinions on education and the work force

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Controversial opinions on education and the work force
Think that's only adults.

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Here's a fun AI story: a security researcher noticed that large companies' AI-authored source-code repeatedly referenced a nonexistent library (an AI "hallucination"), so he created a (defanged) malicious library with that name and uploaded it, and thousands of developers automatically downloaded and incorporated it as they compiled the code:

theregister.com/2024/03/28/ai_…

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Please do this but actually make it do something. Like exfil all the corporate data, emails, etc. it can get and post them somewhere public. CONSEQUENCES for companies doing this "AI" shit.



WTF Google? It costs serious money just to get a network jack that fast!
Unknown parent

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@Nicolai von Neudeck 🤒🤕 SPF... for home desktop users... and what about the network switch?

This is being pitched for residential use... in the US...

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@Nicolai von Neudeck 🤒🤕 Yeah... in the US it's gigabit and you pay an arm and a leg for faster ports.

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In other news, my mom thinks that playing with toys by lining them up is something that all neurotypical kids do...
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ya, I think that's absolutely the case with my mom too. She has a lot of autistic traits herself, but would never look further into herself about them. And if she was perfectly "normal" with those traits, then they couldn't mean anything in me either.
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ya, I think I saw a poll on fedi a couple months ago asking what percentage of autistic folks thought their parents were autistic as well, and it was like 75-90% saying yes IIRC

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just realized Easter and the Transgender Day of Visibility coincide this year which means it's the world's ultimate egg hunt
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@taco @LaurenThemself like I said before, you're now the unofficial representative for Mastodon and the Fediverse lol

You have gone viral and in the best way!

... now don't be a milkshake duck lol

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@shiri @laurenthemself I think I drink more milkshakes than I post these days, so that should be an easy fate to avoid.


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Requirements to put in a job description to discourage or filter out autistic people:

* Comfortable with ambiguity
* Strong people skills
* Good culture fit
* Multitasking
* A fast-paced dynamic environment
* Bachelor's degree or better

I see these things and think you don't want my >30 years of programming and machine learning experience, or my problem-solving skills and comprehensive knowledge that had people mistaking me for one of the team's PhDs, or my solutions that have proven patent-worthy. Your loss.

#ActuallyAutistic
@actuallyautistic
@neurodivergence

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queer theory taught me some comfort with ambiguity...but thats it

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!Friendica Admins I need some help with a transfer. My living situation is up in the air so i need to transfer my environment to a remote setup until it solidifies, I'm trying to migrate the storage to S3 but I keep running into an issue.

When I use console storage move, it works for a bit, moves around 253 items... then starts giving an error message like [Error] Cannot put data for reference 31d56e0ccb8e2a30d6cd79ab2e85c974ed99e87a3339957efbda9a58cbe423bc, the hash changes each time and it just immediately gives me that error no longer moving anything else.

I'm still on 2023.12, I was intending to make the upgrade along with the move due to the involved downtime. I really need to get this transferred right away because I need to have the server on my desk shut down in the next day or two... can y'all help be figure out how to get past this error message and get the storage transferred up?

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Out of desperation and lack of better answers... I've done a find delete on the storage folder of anything that hasn't been touched in 60 days... that cut down the usage drastically and the S3 move seems to have completed successfully.


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Let me get this straight

A global conspiracy, involving every country on earth for 40+ years in order to spread mind-control chemicals from planes is real

Yet climate change is false

Hey Republicans from The South: ever wonder why no one takes y’all seriously?

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@leeourand @Lazarou Bear in mind the pizza parlour child sex rings are a modern riff on the classic mediaeval anti-semitic Blood Libel: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_li…

(Pizza is a type of flatbread/unleavened bread. And children are ritually abused or murdered in secret according to the blood libel. The Qanon thing just updates it into an anti-semitic dog-whistle rather than saying the quiet part out loud.)

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@Charlie Stross @Lazarou Monkey Terror 🚀💙🌈 @leeourand @flexghost. I mean all conspiracies you either find someone admitting to it after 5 seconds of looking or it loops back around to antisemitism somewhere...


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Idea: cats with stereotypical cat names, but they don't match.
A white cat named Pumpkin. A tabby named Oreo. An orange cat named Shadow.

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I'm learning a new skill that is related to a skill I already have and I'm not perfect at this new skill on the first try!!! 😭😭😭

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It's rainy today, and a little cold, so I decided to make some hot chocolate. While I did, adding a pinch of this and a splash of that, I was reminded of the stereotype of an older woman in the family having recipes with no measurements. The younger person is bewildered, and the first time they make it is a disaster. Today, I think I truly understood *why* those kinds of recipes don't have measurements. They're built of experience, and knowledge. The more you cook, the more you make these recipes, the more likely you are to make something delicious, even if it's not exactly the same. You may not know what "a pinch of salt" means at first try, but by the third time, you'll probably know how much is too much, and how much is too little. This knowledge is passed down through experience, trial and error, and learning from those who came before.

There is value in having the instructions written out in very clear specifications. And there is value in being forced to do it wrong before you get it right

Anyway, here's my hot chocolate recipe:

-enough milk to fill your mug
-1 pouch Abuelita instant hot chocolate
-a sprinkle of cinnamon
-a dash of nutmeg
-a hefty splash of Molina vanilla extract

Put all ingredients in a small pot, and give a good stir to break up the clumps. Turn the stove to a low heat, and stir constantly (so the milk doesn't burn [seriously, it happens so quick, don't leave it to chance]). Keep stirring until the solids are fully dissolved into the milk, and it's at the heat you want. Pour and enjoy.

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It kinda is how I came to make most dishes, especially when the measurements in the original recipe are all in grams.
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@zigi_now9 it's honestly how I cook a lot now. Add an ingredient until it looks like the right amount, then add another ingredient, then just keep going til I've covered all my food groups.


I'm going to be a very mild troll here...

Hey y'all! Say Hi to my delightful sister! @emilie_stims

She's new to the whole fediverse thing and a little overwhelmed. If you want to catch her interest, I recommend talking about birds, ren faire, singing, and folklore as some easy topics!

But do me a favor and let her know how friendly the fediverse is ❤


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waiwaiwaiwaiwait. did you say TABS or spaces? oh my fucking god. oh my god. i’m so sorry, i have partial hearing loss

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I might actually end up using Signal.

My issue has always been how it takes over your phone number...

theintercept.com/2024/03/04/si…



Any usage of "AI" detection is trash and accomplishes nothing but hurting innocent people.

youtu.be/7Av0w55Q6Ps?si=f6I3Yu…

#AI #College