@Raroun I call that a lucky bit of chemistry. Also, just because someone isn't using saying ableist things doesn't mean they're being ableist... walking lightly around disabled people is also it's own form of ableism that gets really tiring.

And I'm not even sure your joke is what I was talking about since it was very direct and more a specific targeted jab that happened to reference their disability, you didn't even mark it as something shameful but rather just spouted an absurdity.

A prime example would be something like mocking the lisp of a Nazi. Sure, that person is a Nazi... but what about all the non-Nazis that you're also mocking at the same time?