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99% of the time "Judeo-Christian" is antisemitic. And yes, I will absolutely elaborate on this if asked.

Credit: @Rabbit Cohen

Edit because this blew up far more than I expected and multiple people have asked for me to elaborate, here's a copy of my elaboration with follow up questions encouraged:

It's a messy topic and it's late here (I'm a bit sleepy), so feel free to ask follow up questions.

The short version of it is that Judeo-Christian is almost always used in one of two harmful ways:

1) To try and give more credibility and weight to something that is purely Christian by claiming that it's part of Judaism as well when it's not (like the above example, because Judaism explicitly permits abortions)
2) To try and talk about broader groupings of related faiths while ignoring the many other Abrahamic faiths (the proper term, though that one more often hurts the lesser known groups, don't use it unless you also know it applies to groups like the Baháʼí, which I'll admit even I know next to nothing about, but it's valid here because all I'm doing is naming their religious family)

Because many (cough most cough) teach a bastardized form of Judaism through the lens of Christianity, and because that's the only exposure many get to our faith... they get skewed harmful and hurtful ideas about us.

Some highlight examples:
* We don't have an established afterlife (we don't say there isn't one, we just have zero information on it if there is)
* We don't seek "eternal reward", the reward for our faith is being a better person than we were the day before
* We have forgiveness baked into our faith, and no it doesn't require animal sacrifice (it requires you to actually ask the person you wronged...)
* We thoroughly encourage arguing any topic with anyone (right time and place of course), and that includes picking a fight with God if you think they're wrong about something (you have a 99.9% chance of being wrong... but we commend the effort and every once in a while someone wins the argument)
* We have a rule, Pikuach Nefesh, roughly meaning that life is the highest commandment. Your well being takes precedence over your faith, if it would hurt you or others to be observant than you are exempt from that requirement. It's unacceptable to hurt others for your faith, and for yourself it's frowned upon
* We actively discourage conversion, it's allowed but it's not a trivial process. We don't want people to become Jews, we just want people to be better.

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@Shannon (she/her) @Pedestriansfirst I suppose you're technically correct, I guess I usually never think about it because there's always more apt descriptions (ie. Nazis are often Zionists because "Blood And Soil").

And yes on the antisemitism of it, I just chose not to say anything about that in favor of a chance at education. (Also a love for getting into arguments with aggressive militant atheists because it's so fun to see their talking points shatter and the confusion that comes from it)

And I didn't bring it up later because I felt from the conversation that it wasn't going to be a problem again from them because they learned some things about Judaism, Jewish Culture, and that religions people can in fact own and acknowledge bad behaviors in their own communities.

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@Shannon (she/her) I don't think believing all zionists are jews isn't that messy of a idea because it impacts so little, especially since the zionist behavior of non-jews is already easily discernible on it's own as awful anyways.

And keep in mind that the comparison is that this started from assuming that all Jews condoned the atrocities committed by the Israeli government and has walked away knowing that it's not uniform.



This is a long article, but the theory hits *hard* with me and connects really well.

The basic gist is that autistics almost always define our identities by what we do and our personal traits, while non-autistics almost always define their identities by their relationships (in particular to social groups)

If you don't have it in you to read all of it, definitely read the section: "How does having an experientially-constructed identity impact relationships?".

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@bike I suspect it isn't that much different. Collectivist societies can be awful in their own ways.

They're still better imo, but they have a tendency to focus too hard on traditions and conformity on top of the ideals of communal responsibility.

But in all cases it's a mesh of peer pressure and group identity vs our value identity.

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@bike I get that, I mostly mention that so I don't come across as bashing collectivist societies incidentally. My point was more that I doubt there's that much difference for us, just swap out one set of rules that don't make sense for another set that don't make sense for a different reason.
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Why You Must Keep The Monsters Human


*(Reposting because my node crashed and lost all my posts and I want to keep this one pinned)*

I've been mulling over making this post for a little bit, but I think it's really **really** important.

It's critically important that you remember and acknowledge the humanity of monsters. Not for their benefit, but for *everyone else's* benefit.

When someone commits a monstrous act or shares a monstrous belief, we want to think of them as an inherently vile and non-human thing.

But doing so shields and protects other monsters.

When you make a Nazi, or any kind of abuser, into a one-dimensional monster. When you make their whole existence *center* on this monstrous act or belief... you make it hard to see their humanity. And that's the point, you don't *want* to see their humanity.

*** You Don't Want To Believe That Someone You Know And Trust (Maybe Even Love) Is Capable Of Such Atrocity. ***

And that's the problem. Because when you reject their humanity, that humanity becomes their shield. Your friend Bob can't possibly be a Nazi or a child-abuser, he's such a loving father and he helped you move!

Because you see their humanity, you can't possibly imagine them as monsters because the monsters have no humanity in your eyes.

There's a reason that when serial killers get caught their neighbors say they couldn't imagine them doing such things.

So don't ignore their humanity, keep it in your mind... so the next one can't use it as a shield.


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I thought this was just my bipolar…


You ever see someone say something else and go "oh, so other people go through this too, huh?"

#Autism #ADHD #Masking #Neurodivergence #tootrue


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Just a random note:

"Ad Hominem" is a logical fallacy in which they dismiss the argument by addressing the person not the argument.

Ad Hominem is not calling the person a douchebag while addressing the points of the argument.

Ad Hominem is saying those points should be dismissed because they are a douchebag.

It's thrown around (improperly) often by people who want to basically say "you've lost the argument because you're angry" but what to add elitism on top of entitlement.

Easy test: if you can remove all the insults from the argument and it still makes sense, then it's not Ad Hominem.

#LogicalFallacy #Debate #Arguments #AdHominem



My little fur niece and my family still need help. While the goal has been met, it's the bare minimum, if things go well and luck is good things will work out... but things are really hard even then.

Please consider donating more to improve her odds and help support my sister, her husband, and my nephew through this.

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#MutalAid #Dogs #PetHealth #GoFundMe

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Are there any deadlines to raise those funds on your campaign?
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@Henry willow to be clear, this is my sister's campaign. As far as I know they're stable, they're just holding their breath for worse and cutting back on their own care to cover and prep (ie. my sister has severe health issues, my nephew has dietary issues, and they're cutting groceries).

So donations right now are toward breathing room, toward either avoiding possible bad news putting them back under or if all goes well then toward getting them back on their feet.




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don’t I do this to you all the time or something. Not sure if we’re besties but we certainly have been through a lot together

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wait i can force femboy maids to clean my house for me while they pay for it

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thank god redditors are virgins so i don't have to see videos containing this sort of dialogue.

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Some people wanna wear bikinis.

Some wanna wear suits.

Some want dresses.

Some (me) want battle-worn scalemail and a cloak that billows out to resemble dragon wings.

Let people wear wtf they fukkin want, geez. Judgmental bitchez upset and unbalance my humours, fr fr


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My husband was the first to give the aebleskiver baking a go and he knocked it out of the park 😋 #Baking #Aebleskivers #HusbandInTheKitchen

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Hmm, the body of this may not have made it across the bridge. It looks like a blank post to me
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@RS I suspect it's because it's a linked post from Tumblr and they decided to change their account name and because Tumblr is a pile of crap it broke the link as opposed to forwarding it. Here's a fixed link: belalugosisdeadname.tumblr.com…

Thanks for letting me know, I'll try and keep an eye out for it happening again if I'm guessing wrong.

@RS

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You're in her DM's.

She and I are being useless sapphics on main.

We should get along just fine. ❤️

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Sincere question for people who are into astrology: you're often insistent that people respect your beliefs, but do you allow us to opt out of being stereotyped and judged based on those beliefs? Because if not, that respect is very much one way.

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Like, when you ask someone for their sign, do you take "no" for an answer? Or do you ask for their birthday and plow ahead?
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Are you respectful when queer people who aren't into astrology say they feel alienated by it, or do you laugh it off because it's "not real oppression"?

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sometimes i forget that people that were alive in the 80s are sometimes alive today

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@Amber SOMETIMES?!?!?! FING SOMETIMES?!?!?! BH I'M NOT EVEN 40!!!

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Just saying, if I had any real ability to influence standards or get things implemented, I'd be rolling out yesterday a standard reporting system for the fediverse...

It's frankly ridiculous that every platform handles moderation reports differently, sometimes within a platform there's support for sending the report automatically from your home instance to the remote instance, but not something I'd remotely rely on.

Hell, I'm running a Friendica instance and the only way you're going to send me moderation reports if you're not logged into my server is to just find the info page for the server and email me or tag me, which is frankly ridiculous.

Like this isn't remotely hard to implement in code, the problem is entirely getting people to adopt it!

#fedi #activitypub #admin #admins #moderation


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I don't celebrate Christmas but this is my sister's shop and I can't recommend her teas enough!
She orders ingredients individually and mixes them herself from high quality ingredients! Please order from her and tell her I sent you ❤#ad #tea #SmallBusiness #recommendation #gifts


If you are wanting your order to arrive before Christmas, then you have a few more days. If you aren't fussy about when your tea arrives then carry on 🎄🫖💚 #TeaShop #FandomTea #LooseLeafTea #WomanOwned #DisabledOwned #SmallBusiness

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My clothes have a lot of nerve being dirty when I just did laundry like two months ago

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Nothing like reading a lesbian superhero novel and being able to viscerally feel all the romantic and touchy feely elements thanks to them actually being present in your life.

I love my partner so much, I knew I longed for these feelings but nothing in the world could prepare me for how they actually feel. How intense it is to just be loved like that, or how quickly they can shut down your entire nervous system with just their fingertips...

#Lesbians #LGBT #Reading #Love #Relationship


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Despite your handle, that is not mostly harmless. Looking at that is legit making me anxious. Those eight eighth rests are making me so uncomfortable.

Thank goodness you didn't do one more measure. I'm not sure how I would've handled that.

@MostlyHarmless@thecanadian.social


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Mutual aid request for critically ill dog

Please Please Please help my little fur-niece out.#MutualAid #Pets #Vetcare #Dogs #help #helprequest #GoFundMe


Dear World - I am a wreck. My furbaby, Bluebell, needs medical care and I just can't afford it. I don't want to have to relinquish her, so I am hoping some kind souls can help us out. If you can't give, please share! TIA <3gofund.me/225bf03b#DogsOfBluesky #Dogs #Doxie #Dachshund #Furbaby #MyHeart

Donate to Help Bluebell Get We...


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Mutual aid request for critically ill dog
Just pinging the post again to bring it up since goal has not been reached and my fur niece still needs support ❤


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I'VE GOT MY PASSPORT BOOK!

THIS IS A HUGE FUCKING RELIEF!

For those not aware, I've been without valid photo ID for ages, let alone ID with my correct name and gender marker.

When I got my name and gender marker change order done a few months back, just before I could get in the state office to get a new ID (and I was having issues with them actually sending me a non-temporary one regardless...) they decided they were going to start ignoring court orders and putting anyone who tried to get their ID updated on a list.

Thankfully that's only at the state level and the only thing that matters there is drivers license. I was born in a state that is very supportive of updating my birth certificate, and the federal government still accepts the forms just fine.

So the passport isn't just me able to leave the country reasonably, it's also a valid photo ID with my correct name and gender which I haven't had in ages (and has been the thing holding me back from updating things like bank accounts).

#uspol #transfemme #transfem #transwoman #NameChange #transition #LGBT



Hell, I'm pro AI and still think this is cursed... Yes I want AIs trained, but why the hell would you work with sensitive private data and think it should have access to that?!


The other day I messaged a friend's niece to tell them how to disable a setting on their laptop that is potentially leaking their work to feed AI. They work in educational psychology, so I didn't want patient/student data getting fed into some black box. All well and good so far.

What really surprised me however, was her reaction.

"Don't I want AI to be trained?"

Holy fuck do we have an educational failing in lay people's understanding of what LLMs mean and their implications.



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tragic: the best metaphor for explaining fedi is probably gonna be D&D


US Pol, Propublica guide to threats


Supreme Risk is ProPublica's interactive guide to rights the #SupremeCourt has established — and could take away.

Filter your results by #SCOTUS justice and issues like Criminal #Justice, #Education, #Voting, Sex & #Gender, #Guns and more.

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#Law #Politics #USPolitics #Government #Guide #Journalism


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News about hate crimes, US events

This is from one of the "safer" states. Imagine what it means to be living somewhere like Texas like me... There's a reason I closed registrations on my server, I have no idea of what's coming and this could easily be me any day I leave the house...#lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtq #transfemme #transwoman


Just finished rewatching the 1972 musical "Cabaret", about three friends and lovers in the waning days of the Weimar Republic.
Found this when checking in for the evening:
the-independent.com/news/world…

Don't really have any other way to say this than
GET OUT NOW.

#trans #TransRights #usa


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It hurt... it hurt so much and like so much trauma it's not that obvious until the trauma is past...
I was isolated, not only from other people, but from my own emotions... I wanted so badly to cry but I couldn't, all I could do was bottle it up (not toxic masculinity, literally an effect of testosterone)...
I looked at myself and pretty much didn't see myself... I had no self-image then and now I have one forming.
Before even my transition I figured out I'm grey-ace, now that I have a girlfriend I've really established that I'm grey-ace, emphasis on the grey... 😳
So it's really nothing sexual for me... there's the opposite of gratification there (without details... certain things don't work right anymore...). What it is is feeling at home in my skin, looking at myself in the mirror and finding things I like... sure I get dysphoria and there are plenty of things I don't like about my body... but there's for once in my life alot of things I do like.
And on top of it all... my personality and interactions with the world feel so less discordant... so many of my behaviors were early hints of being a woman... I may never have kids, but it's clear I've had "mother" energy for a looooong time.
... I could keep going but I got a day job to do...

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I'm forever and especially now pissed at the people who bullied Snarfed into making the Bluesky/AP bridge explicit opt-in only.

It's like pulling teeth to work with a bridge that's explicit opt-in because that means anyone on the other side of the bridge you want to talk to you have to hand hold them through connecting to a bridge. "Oh it's just following a specific account to opt in", do you think most people have any level of comprehension that they have to follow two wholly different accounts just so I can follow them back?

They see my posts and they think it's done, they're fine with me seeing their posts, they don't give a flying fuck about bridges, but the confusion every time I have to walk them through it...

All for people who have zero idea of what the fuck federation is, assholes who are in the category of thinking this is all Mastodon, that think just because they're posting it here they're perfectly protected from the evil corporate networks and they think the bridge bursts their delicate little bubble... on top of that they demand that no, they don't do anything to be accountable at all, ****EVERYONE ELSE**** has to be accountable for their fucking paranoia.

"I don't want a corporate network to slurp up my data!" - Then why the fuck are you posting where every single corporate network can freely slurp up your data? If you don't want corporations slurping up your data then your only real choice is to only post as followers-only and turn off automatic acceptance of follow requests!

"Bluesky isn't safe, by making it opt-in people can't harass me over it" - They can harass you already, all you're doing is taking it from instead of you blocking one instance you have an issue with you demanded everyone else suffer just so you didn't have to hit the fucking block button.

"But what about people who don't know about the bridge, what about their safety?" - What the fuck about their safety? Are you demanding all the countless literal nazi servers out there block you instead of you blocking them?

And of all things Snarfed bowed to all that dogpiling hate from whiny children who refused to accept responsibility for themselves.

Let alone all the people whining about corporate takeover efforts, THEY ALREADY WON, this isn't letting them take over the network, this is how we fucking fight back by showing them how it's done.

It's like if when Internet Explorer was trying to take over browsers Mozilla and those like it just threw up their hands and decided to just split the internet. Arguing that we can't let IE take over the internet so we're just going to refuse to support anything at all related there and we'll "win" by... dying quietly...

I'm so goddam sick of the combined effect of people with zero sense both signing up for awful platforms and other people with zero sense just handing those platforms victory on a fucking silver platter.

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@Devil Doll given that your response to being told that "idiot" is ableist is to just start throwing it around more and arguing the same ideological purity I claimed about... pretty sure I'm not the one who needs to grow up lol

Good night, I'm not entertaining whiny brats tonight.

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Devil Doll, Esq. is ignored



So, I've bridged my account via brid.gy to Bluesky. I'm looking for suggestions of bridged accounts on both sides, ones for me to follow and ones for me to suggest to people on Bluesky to tempt them to the dark... I mean AP side.

(For those not aware on the AP side: if you follow the account bsky.brid.gy@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky your account will become available to Bluesky users, no more than it is to any other instance and likewise blocking will block the bridge like any other instance. Bluesky users that have bridged will become <username>@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky, your username will become @username.ap.brid.gy, with the @ in your username becoming a period much like how mine changes from shiri@foggyminds.com to @shiri.foggyminds.com.ap.brid.gy, your profile link... because so many people on Bluesky don't know how to search a frikkin username is going to be something like bsky.app/profile/shiri.foggymi…)

(For those on the Bluesky side: if you follow the account @ap.brid.gy you'll be accessible via the ActivityPub fediverse. Unlike Bluesky the fediverse is properly federated and has absolutely no dependency on any corporation, individual people can easily run their own completely independent nodes and do so on reasonable hardware. If you do your account will become <username>@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky on the fediverse and you'll be able to access accounts at @username.ap.brid.gy with the @ sign in the normal AP username turning into a ., like how mine changes from shiri@foggyminds.com to @shiri.foggyminds.com.ap.brid.gy)