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Random realization... Watching shows like Last Week Tonight are only like 10% for the news update... and 90% for the Shared Trauma Processing.
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Shiri Bailem

@CORRUPT ... are people suggesting support groups make trauma worse? That's the most hair brained thing and screams "A person's trauma became more obvious after they started processing it, so clearly that means things are worse".

Then I see your profile says you're against middle-eastern religions and "pro-israel" which kinda tells me everything I need to know when you're replying to someone who's anti-zionist and follows one of those middle-eastern religions...



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I'm all for people having negative views of AI, there's alot that's wrong. There's alot that's debatable (albeit those debates are painfully heated).

What I am tired of is the misinformation, especially the "AI is useless and you're deluding yourself if you think it's had any positive impact on your life" crowd.

I try to avoid getting into fights about things like the ethics questions, I will say I absolutely agree with shaming it's use in art, especially anything for-profit. And I hate that I feel the need to make a post about this because I know how visceral the response is in so many.

It's my values that we shouldn't take a tool away from people based on falsehoods.

If you want to say AI should be eradicated because it "steals" artist's works, have at it, let me know if you want to chime in on IP law topics and questions both for and against. (Not a lawyer, just a special interest in IP law a ways back).

If you want to call out it's environmental impact, fire away. (Let me know if you want me to tell you about how that's not an inherent problem but instead a corporate/capitalist one!)

If you want to call out it's negative impacts on education and skill building? Oooh boy, show me that thread because I'm on your side!

Propaganda? I can tell you it's baaaaaaad

But for the love of god don't flood my feed with "It's wrong 60% of the time" or any other variation of "it's fundamentally useless". Let alone pushes to shame all AI users.

Like I said, it's in my values to not deprive people out of falsehoods and to think about broader consequences. It's not a simple situation.

I sometimes wish I could just throw away some of my values because I have lost someone I love dearly over this... but I can't just throw it into the fire because people are upset, because people are pointing their hurt at a tool.

Just please... try and temper your hurt some so that it's not blindly lashing out? Just consider that other people are hurting too and sometimes hurt people hurt other people.



OH MY FUCKING GOD! NEW DYSTOPIAN CORP-SPEAK JUST DROPPED: "Revenge Quitting"

It's their term for quitting a toxic workplace...

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Stepped out of the shower today and had a moment appreciating myself, most of all appreciating that I actually like my hair now.

I'm not conventionally attractive, but I don't think of myself as ugly any more.

#TransFemme #Trans #TransWoman #Selfie


in reply to Shiri Bailem

100%, but it's even worse b/c they're doing the passport checks on domestic travel now, and anyone with the "X" vs "M" or "F" is gonna get sent to prison, so air travel isn't an option.

And, troopers in Ohio are randomly stopping people, so I'm not sure it's a safe state anymore.

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@boB Rudis 🇺🇦 I haven't heard anything of people being arrested over passport markers, only of their passports being confiscated? Do you have links to any stories on this?

And Ohio notably isn't on that map.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

I'll grab the links. Atlanta airport started requiring passports for domestic this week, which will mean they will do "X" checks (there's an EO forcing the passport change). We have turned trans humans back from overseas due to solely trans.

(my bad re: Ohio…been a day so far)

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This past year has been intense, and especially these past few years... I look at the me from a decade ago and I barely recognize them. Hopes and dreams have changed, life upended multiple times. Disowned my relatives and now I've adopted a large chosen family. Gone from alone to feeling loved by so many people, and one especially in particular. My egg finally cracked. I started HRT. Changed my name twice. Been traumatized multiple times. Unpacked so much fucking trauma. Moved so many times. My profession took off. My profession crashed and burned. And I'm about to start it all over again.

I just turned 39 last friday... and honestly I feel really hopeful for my future... even with a new holocaust looming over my head. But I also look back and am happy where I am...

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in reply to Shiri Bailem

And some of the trauma I've been unpacking:

  • I get incredibly anxious now when someone I care about is uncomfortable, especially if I might be connected to that discomfort. It goes beyond fawning and can easily turn into me pestering them with excessive check-ins and an overbearing effort to try and comfort a discomfort that may not even be there.
  • I'm scared of physical intimacy... I've always craved it, I need it... but I don't really pursue it like I need anymore.
  • I've realized I can get callous very quickly when I sense potentially malicious manipulation, it serves me well but I recognize now that it's definitely the sign of something broken that I can become coldly calculating so quickly
  • I have a powerful resistance to gaslighting that I've developed from a lifetime of people attributing reasons and understandings to my actions that were not there, from just accusing me of non-existent disrespect (#autism) to calling me lazy when I'm suffering from executive dysfunction.
  • I am constantly terrified of how I'm perceived and especially that I might be distrusted... I spent most of my life wanting to connect with people, predominantly women (go figure I wanted to be friends with women more than men in retrospect...) and being shut down because I was seen as a man... because there was not a single action I could take that they didn't already do to try and manipulate women... (well... I finally found one action they won't take lol)
  • While I no longer have a broadly negative self-image, I can say positive things about myself and believe good things about myself... a nugget of dissonance still remains. A part of me still struggles to believe I can be loved despite all the blatant evidence in front of me. I know that part is wrong, but it makes all my love given and received feel so very very raw.
  • I spent so very very long isolated, especially emotionally... What love I felt wasn't healthy, it was mostly the love of obligation that you get in dysfunctional conservative families. Having spent my whole life without feeling it, genuine love is incredibly overwhelming... I think about my family and it feels like I'm stretched taught over a creaking barrel ready to blow from pressure... So when the people I love give me a way to show them love, it feels like an intense pressure valve release.

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