The funny part is that the (not actually a) crossposter I'm using for Fedi/ATProto stuff is that it natively has quote posts. Friendica has had quoteposts forever, I suspect other AP software has had quoteposts forever, yet Mastodon refuses to implement them.
I'm feeling really grateful today and just wanted to share that feeling.
I'm grateful for... * Living in a time when HRT is available * Having easy access to it even though I live in the state of Texas * Being blessed by the boob fairy (46B after 6-months when most trans-femmes are lucky to hit A-cup after 2 years... insert suspense tone for what that means for later) * HRT absolutely demolishing body/hair growth and making everything very manageable * Liking pickles before HRT so it's not as confusing * HRT feminizing my face enough that I feel comfortable going out without makeup * My hair, which was just a short mess before... now just magically grew into a cute bob with zero effort (and this is it's maximum length... I do lament not having longer hair though) * Having an incredibly supportive adoptive family * Skirts, dear god the skirts I've got now are so damn comfy * Randomly knowing how to adjust my voice properly so I skipped voice training entirely * A work from home job that allowed me to easily transition before ever worrying about work * A Christian boss (also owner of the company) who was baffled at the idea I even had something to worry about with coming out at work... in a traditionally conservative industry * Being born it Illinois which makes it trivially easy to update my birth certificate (just waiting on the legal name change documents first so I can do both at the same time)
* being a grower and so small that I don't need to tuck in 90% of cases and couldn't if I wanted to * being grey-ace and not phased by the shrinkage * not really having bottom dysphoria... that shit's expensive AF
My first post. Been looking into Friendica lately so decided to give it try. My post will be mostly related to TV and Movies, climate issues, food security. Personally I have a nihilistic view of the world, do not think the future is bright...
@Shiri Bailem thank you for the warm welcome. I am still trying to figure out how to use Friendica , as the info is not displayed like in Mastodon or Pleroma. Any good clients for iOS?
You know what's great to learn at 38, right before bedtime one night, after a whole life time of struggle...
That your mother traumatized you with ADHD to the point where actually pushing myself against ADHD is a trigger... making it so no amount of coping skills can help me push myself for any real length of time...
I'd try and do something that requires a push, even a little one... and be crying... and I thought it was just the feeling of hitting my dopamine... but nooooo... now I'm unpacking that it was me getting triggered at the feeling of pushing my reserves at all...
That explains so damn much and makes me feel so damn hurt and angry...
I was forced to push myself so far so often as a kid and she didn't ever relent when I was critically over-extended on dopamine... usually around cleaning. I'm remembering so many times crying and sobbing on the floor because she demanded I clean to an extreme standard and I wasn't allowed to do anything else until I met her approval...
And I've been running my whole life fucking kneecapped by this... I thought I just had it worse than most (with ADHD) on my ability to push myself on tasks... but no... it's because I realize now I can't fucking push myself at all because my fucking brain just jumps straight to that extreme pain and trauma right away...
Now I'm fucking crying when I should be trying to sleep...
i spent a sizeable portion of my childhood shut in my room with "you're not coming out until it's clean!" And without guidance on how to clean it.
I push through hard things like this as an adult with the mantra "something is better than nothing" and just chip away at things.
And I sit with my kids when cleaning their room, talk through my process and coach them. That's been really healing, coaching my kids and also my ADHD friends; it's like re-parenting myself!
@contradogma friendica definitely follows more of the facebook format style, one of the reasons I chose it for this instance. That and the fact that it is basically the swiss army knife of social, attempting to support everything it possibly can.
Biggest downside is the poor UI and that's the entire reason it's not my default recommendation for the fediverse.
@contradogma it's mostly things being in weird places, easy to get lost... if you're even a little bit of a tinkerer it's no big, but for the casual computer user it gets really frustrating really fast.
ie. try and find where to go to change your profile picture.
You mention Tumblr and Bluesky addons? How or where does one start?
Thanks for the kind feedback! Very curious now.
To explain better:
1. New-ish to the Fediverse, but complete noob with Friendica (+ Hubzilla).
2. Looking for a "central hub" to interact from to the AT fediverse. Is this what is called a "nomadic ID?" Was told Friendica and Hubzilla are the best for this but HZ makes no sense at all...?
3. Don't want to have an account for every Fediverse-tool / software, but finding it might be needed, as they don't all ecessarily interact well with one another.
@Plastic Frog @Shiri Bailem Hubzilla has nomadic ID, that is where you can seamlessly move all of your information over to other instances/cloning. Friendica just requires you provider to install the bluesky addon. Go to setting> social networks. You will see the bluesky option. Put in your bluesky and password and other setting and now you never have to log into bluesky and it all comes through your friendica account. Twitter used to have that option, I rarely logged into twitter, but Musk broke the API. I would do that for bluesky but I have yet to have a reason to join it.
@Plastic Frog @anubis2814eventually that add-on will turn into full AT support, plus there is at least one person building an AP/AT bridge as well (which allows the two to talk without the servers having to understand the other protocol).
As far as Tumblr it's the same method as Bluesky, though you can follow Tumblr feeds without a Tumblr account, having the account lets you comment and have some/all your posts mirror to your Tumblr account.
In the same area you see options for all the other platforms I've enabled plugins for (the others I haven't enabled are just because they haven't come up... not that most of those have come up either)
Most of the time you're talking about platforms that share the ActivityPub protocol (shortened to AP), everything that uses AP can talk to everything else that uses AP (ie. Mastodon, Lemmy, Friendica, Threads).
Bluesky is starting up their own protocol, AT (I forget what it's short for). So it can't talk to anything that's AP and vice versa, at least not without some sort of translation layer inbetween.
Right now the Bluesky addon is a "puppet" addon, meaning it just mirrors and controls a separate Bluesky account... Friendica plans to incorporate AT support more directly which would remove that step. Also, there's things like bridgeyfed that are making bridges. A bridge sits on two networks and translates calls between two protocols (ie. an AP server asks it for posts from an AT user, it just sees the bridge as an instance with that user on it)
The biggest reason to have multiple accounts is just for different experiences. Ie. Friendica (Facebook/Myspace style) is very different from say Pixelfed (Instagram style experience) and Lemmy (Reddit style experience)
@shiri thanks so much for the detailed explanation.
Yes, read about the AP / AT protocols before and that there is some poor guy under fire now for trying to bridge the two, though it’s probably inevitable either way. (BridgyFed?)
Basically just curious to see the smaller abilities and limitations between all the Fediverse tools out there.
Have written a post just now with a table. Just a very basic test, but after many hours of back and forth between the different tools, a pattern emerged.
Using different tools for different uses makes sense, like photos or videos or threads, music, etc.
Though very little posting anywhere is done from this side. Just want to be able to follow, like and comment.
So thought maybe there is something like that, and Friendica / Mastodon and others work fine for that with posts and media.
It’s the aggregators that become an issue when following from a different tool.
I like crafting things basically. And writing OS (and about Osdev in general). Also have an interest into arts, and so far i made a small bunch of paintings (i'm a newbie so don't expect high level art), i will maybe post the photos here in the future.
So far that's all, my nick in the fediverse, and outside is most of the time dreamos82.
@PatsyBaloney bookbinding is the most recent one, i just started to make few experiments with it, made couple of mini notebooks, i'll post some pictures in the coming days! :)
Imagine walking along the beach at night and then you see a girl lying on the shore, looking at the leisurely splashing of the waves, with a dreamy look.
Life has been very busy lately. I have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer and had a lump removed & a lot of appointments. I dressing changes 3 times a week. I am having CBT counselling. There is the decluttering. And that is on top of my caring duties, trying to cope with my osteoarthritis, etc & trying to sort out a motorbility car.
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* not really having bottom dysphoria... that shit's expensive AF