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Mutual aid request for critically ill dog

Please Please Please help my little fur-niece out.#MutualAid #Pets #Vetcare #Dogs #help #helprequest #GoFundMe


Dear World - I am a wreck. My furbaby, Bluebell, needs medical care and I just can't afford it. I don't want to have to relinquish her, so I am hoping some kind souls can help us out. If you can't give, please share! TIA <3gofund.me/225bf03b#DogsOfBluesky #Dogs #Doxie #Dachshund #Furbaby #MyHeart

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Mutual aid request for critically ill dog
Just pinging the post again to bring it up since goal has not been reached and my fur niece still needs support ❤



I'VE GOT MY PASSPORT BOOK!

THIS IS A HUGE FUCKING RELIEF!

For those not aware, I've been without valid photo ID for ages, let alone ID with my correct name and gender marker.

When I got my name and gender marker change order done a few months back, just before I could get in the state office to get a new ID (and I was having issues with them actually sending me a non-temporary one regardless...) they decided they were going to start ignoring court orders and putting anyone who tried to get their ID updated on a list.

Thankfully that's only at the state level and the only thing that matters there is drivers license. I was born in a state that is very supportive of updating my birth certificate, and the federal government still accepts the forms just fine.

So the passport isn't just me able to leave the country reasonably, it's also a valid photo ID with my correct name and gender which I haven't had in ages (and has been the thing holding me back from updating things like bank accounts).

#uspol #transfemme #transfem #transwoman #NameChange #transition #LGBT




US Pol, Propublica guide to threats


Supreme Risk is ProPublica's interactive guide to rights the #SupremeCourt has established — and could take away.

Filter your results by #SCOTUS justice and issues like Criminal #Justice, #Education, #Voting, Sex & #Gender, #Guns and more.

propub.li/418pykA

#Law #Politics #USPolitics #Government #Guide #Journalism


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It hurt... it hurt so much and like so much trauma it's not that obvious until the trauma is past...
I was isolated, not only from other people, but from my own emotions... I wanted so badly to cry but I couldn't, all I could do was bottle it up (not toxic masculinity, literally an effect of testosterone)...
I looked at myself and pretty much didn't see myself... I had no self-image then and now I have one forming.
Before even my transition I figured out I'm grey-ace, now that I have a girlfriend I've really established that I'm grey-ace, emphasis on the grey... 😳
So it's really nothing sexual for me... there's the opposite of gratification there (without details... certain things don't work right anymore...). What it is is feeling at home in my skin, looking at myself in the mirror and finding things I like... sure I get dysphoria and there are plenty of things I don't like about my body... but there's for once in my life alot of things I do like.
And on top of it all... my personality and interactions with the world feel so less discordant... so many of my behaviors were early hints of being a woman... I may never have kids, but it's clear I've had "mother" energy for a looooong time.
... I could keep going but I got a day job to do...

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#lgbt #transfemme #lgbtqia #lgbtq #transition

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I'm forever and especially now pissed at the people who bullied Snarfed into making the Bluesky/AP bridge explicit opt-in only.

It's like pulling teeth to work with a bridge that's explicit opt-in because that means anyone on the other side of the bridge you want to talk to you have to hand hold them through connecting to a bridge. "Oh it's just following a specific account to opt in", do you think most people have any level of comprehension that they have to follow two wholly different accounts just so I can follow them back?

They see my posts and they think it's done, they're fine with me seeing their posts, they don't give a flying fuck about bridges, but the confusion every time I have to walk them through it...

All for people who have zero idea of what the fuck federation is, assholes who are in the category of thinking this is all Mastodon, that think just because they're posting it here they're perfectly protected from the evil corporate networks and they think the bridge bursts their delicate little bubble... on top of that they demand that no, they don't do anything to be accountable at all, ****EVERYONE ELSE**** has to be accountable for their fucking paranoia.

"I don't want a corporate network to slurp up my data!" - Then why the fuck are you posting where every single corporate network can freely slurp up your data? If you don't want corporations slurping up your data then your only real choice is to only post as followers-only and turn off automatic acceptance of follow requests!

"Bluesky isn't safe, by making it opt-in people can't harass me over it" - They can harass you already, all you're doing is taking it from instead of you blocking one instance you have an issue with you demanded everyone else suffer just so you didn't have to hit the fucking block button.

"But what about people who don't know about the bridge, what about their safety?" - What the fuck about their safety? Are you demanding all the countless literal nazi servers out there block you instead of you blocking them?

And of all things Snarfed bowed to all that dogpiling hate from whiny children who refused to accept responsibility for themselves.

Let alone all the people whining about corporate takeover efforts, THEY ALREADY WON, this isn't letting them take over the network, this is how we fucking fight back by showing them how it's done.

It's like if when Internet Explorer was trying to take over browsers Mozilla and those like it just threw up their hands and decided to just split the internet. Arguing that we can't let IE take over the internet so we're just going to refuse to support anything at all related there and we'll "win" by... dying quietly...

I'm so goddam sick of the combined effect of people with zero sense both signing up for awful platforms and other people with zero sense just handing those platforms victory on a fucking silver platter.

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@Devil Doll given that your response to being told that "idiot" is ableist is to just start throwing it around more and arguing the same ideological purity I claimed about... pretty sure I'm not the one who needs to grow up lol

Good night, I'm not entertaining whiny brats tonight.

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Fair, but resolves nothing.

Bluesky is a fucking insane brainwash, conducted in plain sight, and zombies are real.

@mmasnick.bsky.social

IS just my easy goto exemplar.

This is easy, folks.



So, I've bridged my account via brid.gy to Bluesky. I'm looking for suggestions of bridged accounts on both sides, ones for me to follow and ones for me to suggest to people on Bluesky to tempt them to the dark... I mean AP side.

(For those not aware on the AP side: if you follow the account bsky.brid.gy@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky your account will become available to Bluesky users, no more than it is to any other instance and likewise blocking will block the bridge like any other instance. Bluesky users that have bridged will become <username>@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky, your username will become @username.ap.brid.gy, with the @ in your username becoming a period much like how mine changes from shiri@foggyminds.com to @shiri.foggyminds.com.ap.brid.gy, your profile link... because so many people on Bluesky don't know how to search a frikkin username is going to be something like bsky.app/profile/shiri.foggymi…)

(For those on the Bluesky side: if you follow the account @ap.brid.gy you'll be accessible via the ActivityPub fediverse. Unlike Bluesky the fediverse is properly federated and has absolutely no dependency on any corporation, individual people can easily run their own completely independent nodes and do so on reasonable hardware. If you do your account will become <username>@Bridgy Fed for Bluesky on the fediverse and you'll be able to access accounts at @username.ap.brid.gy with the @ sign in the normal AP username turning into a ., like how mine changes from shiri@foggyminds.com to @shiri.foggyminds.com.ap.brid.gy)



@Cory Doctorow Pinging to see what your opinion is on Bridgy Fed, the Bluesky - AP bridge. I know you have expressed strong negative feelings towards Bluesky that mirror my own, but I haven't caught mention of the bridge yet.

This is brought about especially because I'm trying to convince friends that have bought in to Bluesky to at least bridge and am trying to find bridged accounts to recommend to sweeten the pot (and maybe show them that there are better options than Bluesky...)

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@Cory Doctorow so two things:

(a) Lead dev is also a huge fan of yours
(b) They suspect there might have been some slight confusion back when you tried, I think they saw evidence of you trying to use the webform to set things up.

github.com/snarfed/bridgy-fed/…

Gist of setting up the bridge is all you need to do is follow @Bridgy Fed for Bluesky , from there it may take a few hours depending on lag time but your profile on the Bluesky side will be pluralistic.mamot.fr.ap.brid.gy (or profile link: bsky.app/profile/pluralistic.m…)

If you want your username to be craphound.com (or any other domain you own) let me know and I can walk you through how to change it once you're bridged. (Though I'd recommend a subdomain that you can then forward to your profile page because people get confused so easily and it seems like most Bluesky users have no idea they can just search for usernames...)



People think Linux needs you to constantly open the terminal to work on things, in part because they see Linux users so often opening the terminal to work on things...

Was just appreciating this morning that the "opening the terminal to fix it" in Linux is a privilege, not a limitation lol.

Sound started glitching this morning, I of course checked the soundbar, unplugged and replugged it, didn't fix it. Switched to TV speakers same problem.

Me being a techie, I'm going "Ah, pipewire glitched out", I pop open the terminal type systemctl --user restart pipewire and voila sound is perfectly fine again.

Do I expect other people to know how to do that to handle an odd sound glitch? No! I expect them "turn it off and on again".

The difference is that in Windows that's the only choice, probably the same with Mac too.

#linux

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A lot of people seem to still believe the memes and jokes of the old days when you in fact needed them terminal. I completely agree with you! I can choose to use the GUI, the terminal or simply restart.
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I've been using Linux exclusively¹ since late 2010, and the main reason I use the command line is because it makes me feel like a l337 h4xx0r.

¹ not including my job, which is done on a Windows thin client.






Randomly reminded of one of my favorite terms: Schrodinger's Douchebag

Definition: someone who is or is not "joking" depending on whether or not people around them agree with the statement

Related: See Poe's Law

#bigots #douchebags #JustJoking #LogicalFallacy #PoesLaw




Temporarily hacked solution, but in theory my posts should be bridging over to Bluesky now...

Gist of what came about: Bridgy identifies it's accounts as "application" types and apparently Friendica treats those accounts differently, expecting them to be send messages but not need to receive... so it never actually sends post updates to them which means in turn the bridge never has a post to forward... unless you tag a bridged account, which explicitly sends it.

Looks like both teams are looking at fixes, Bridgy is going to change it's account types (but won't be sending updates, the few who are affected can just use the update contacts option to fix it) and Friendica is looking at potentially minimally invasive fixes.

My temporary fix that might work? I manually changed the account type in the database...

#BlueSky #Bridgy #BridgyFed #ActivityPub #Fediverse




Nerd Rant about Protocols

Randomly thinking about small protocols or protocol changes that I think should exist.

Prime example is Static HTTPS:
I think there should be a companion protocol to HTTPS for handling static requests. This would be great for caching, general performance, and even saving storage/bandwidth on things like ActivityPub.

The gist of it is that HTTPS uses a static set of keys to negotiate a dynamic set of keys and dynamically encrypts your entire conversation with the server. It's impossible to do any sort of caching on HTTPS without decrypting it first, but also there's no way to make it unique either without things like php sessions (requiring logins or backchannel confirmations).

How this would work, using the existing HTTPS keys, a request would be made similar to HTTP where the connection itself is unencrypted, but the host/url will specifically be encrypted and the payload of the data sent in return will be encrypted. If you were to cache it the same encrypted request will net the same encrypted data (unless the file behind it gets updated of course). If headers must be added then those can be encrypted separately as well, but also support unencrypted where not necessary... everything would be avoiding using headers in general for this, especially as the files are static.

(Optionally the html could also include a key explicitly for that file)

This means that anything in the middle can cache data without necessarily knowing anything about it. Meaning that something like Cloudflare could provide caching for an HTTPS website without also having to have the key.

Obviously in less secure cases where it doesn't include a special key in the html it will mean that if someone knows what site you're accessing (often an easy guess from IP unless it's something like a cloudflare protected site) they can potentially identify the file by matching to their own browsing... but these should be unimportant files anyways (ie. the google logo, css style sheets, etc), even if visible they'll be effectively signed and you'll know the site wasn't tampered with in transit.

But the really special case shines in things like the fediverse where when I make a followers-only post with a picture attached... right now either the picture is relying on obscurity (publically visible if you know the address) or it has to be embedded in the post as it's sent to the recipient.

This protocol would mean that the html of the post could include the key to the file. The receiving server wouldn't even need to support this protocol or have any change at all in ActivityPub standard to show this image, but the image would still be visible to the recipient so long as their browser or client supported it.

Example:
<a href="shttps://foggyminds.com/images/123456" key="101010101">
(obviously the key would be much longer usually)

A backwards compatible call when privacy isn't a concern (ie. google logo):
<a href="https://foggyminds.com/images/123456" shttps=1>
(Browser with no shttps support would use https normally, but one with that support would see the shttps=1 on there and change the protocol automatically)

#nerd #rant #protocols #https #webdev #http #ssl #web



Minority opinion and vulnerable minority population aren't the same thing.

Just because your opinion is in the minority doesn't mean it's bigoted or unreasonable to dismiss it, only when your opinion is rooted in your status as a vulnerable population.

Me voicing about how things affect me as a trans-woman is speaking from my minority status and bears listening to because we want to be a fair and equitable society.

That doesn't mean we should take seriously the minority of people who are convinced that 1+1=3. Their minority position stems from simply being wrong about fundamental truths.

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And this is in fact related to my previous... the minority who think this is Mastodon shouldn't be the leading voice on things going on in the fediverse.

If you think this is the place for privacy or control of your data... you shouldn't be leading the discussion.

Especially compared to the people who know what ostatus and gnu.social are, let alone people who know what diaspora* is.

We're going to get a wave of outrage as Mastodon rolls out quote posts and people realize that those posts don't follow delete requests of the original let alone the block settings of the original user and server. And they're going to scream and shout that this should be removed from the whole fediverse... nevermind the fact that it's only new to Mastodon.



Copying myself because I'm irritated yet again by people with their head up their ass assuming that their tiny view of the fediverse represents the whole and it's history...

This was set off by another person, yet again, complaining about bridgy-fed and thinking Snarfed is some untrustworthy asshole because he was following the actual norms and standards of the fediverse because the Twitter expats thought Mastodon was some bastion of personal control and ownership....

For context, opt-out (via just blocking the bridge) has been the norm since pretty much the beginning of federation... which the people complaining about the nature of the bridge don't realize how old federation and the community is.

For context (of the ones I'm aware of):
* The first federated protocol was introduced in 1980
* The first federated chat protocol was introduced in 1999
* The first federated social networking platforms that I know of started coming out about 2010. The platform I'm on (Friendica) came out that year.
* the second major federated chat protocol was introduced in 2014 and quickly bridges were built between it and the first (all only opt-out via blocking)
* Mastodon wasn't released until 2016, originally on the ostatus network (Friendica supported and still supports ostatus)
* Snarfed starts working on bridgy-fed around 2018
* Activitypub came out in 2018, mastodon and friendica both transitioned to Activitypub as their central protocol with Mastodon eventually dropping ostatus.
* Bridges were established between Activitypub and previous social networks, all opt-out bridges (and again via blocking)
* 2022 Elon Musk buys Twitter and do to good PR Mastodon becomes the instance platform of choice for most of them to the point that most of them think Mastodon is the network
* 2023, Snarfed has been writing bridgy fed for 7 years now, about as long as the activitypub network has existed, long predating Bluesky (because that's not the only bridge in the project), and all of a sudden people specifically overwhelmingly on Mastodon or younger projects think it's a deep offense to build something under the same social standards that have been the norm for decades. Even then long before the bluesky portion of the bridge was fully functional they relented and switched to an approach that drastically hampered has caused countless bugs and technical difficulties just because a minority of people decided to dogpile him... and of course he's judged because other people essentially crashed a party he'd been at peacefully for years and decided to scream that he was being inappropriate when everyone who was hear already supported it...

#bridges #bridgy #FediMeta #Fediverse #Bluesky

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And I really can't wait until Mastodon's roll out of quote posts hits and they start freaking out like it's a whole new and despicable thing... I'm gonna break out the popcorn for that because I can't imagine them convincing the whole fediverse to just tear out a feature that's been there for ages because they thought Mastodon made the rules lol


Final test post for bridge behaviors... don't disregard, check out my sister's tea shop @Tabletop Teas ;-)






Yay! I got a sibling to turn on the Bluesky/AP bridge!

Hi Aris! @RS

(Also someone on github said my side of the bridge might fix if I mention someone on the other side lol)

@RS
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Cool! Am I correct in my understanding that other people over there can follow me as fed.brid.gy/bsky/tadaris... and it'll all magically link?

tadaris.bsky.social profile - ...

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@RS Yep, it's translating requests from ActivityPub (Mastodon, Friendica, etc) to AT (Bluesky) and back.

It's opt-in though, which is why you needed to follow the bridge account: @ap.brid.gy on the Bluesky side and @Bridgy Fed for Bluesky on the other



Cute AF


Lord, The Gamers Youtube series has been fantastic and such a satisfying ending to the season, dear god I hope they get to keep making it.

(Context: this is a follow up to a whole series of movies starting with The Gamers)

#TheGamers #DND #TTRPG #Comedy

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I started a Google search after your post and realized I've missed a lot, so extra thanks. I have a few things added to my watching que now.


Comfort food entertainment... catching up on the Mashle: Muscles and Magic anime.

Basically a himbo in the world of magic navigates life via brute force abusing physics.

#anime #comfort #himbo




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I would love to host on my own hardware someday, but networking is my kryptonite. I have no idea how to make a RaspberryPi accessible externally (on a dynamic IP) without introducing all manner of security risks that I don’t understand.
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wait a minute. Trans people are the real Americans!

/j /j idek what I’d be starting with this omfg /j



Random weekend note: I never thought I'd be proud of myself for assuming the fetal position before...

#volunteering #charity #ScareForACure

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Context: there's a local haunted house called Scare For A Cure that raises money for charity and is fully volunteer run. (Last year raised $50k for the Breast Cancer Research Center and also distributed thousands in scholarships and other donations). Additionally this isn't your typical "here's a series of themed rooms and spooks and nothing more", Scare runs a full plotline with interactivity, you do stuff and have a story you're participating in... in addition to getting shot with about a half dozen gore cannons within one hour...

I've been volunteering in different roles throughout the month, with some interruptions here and there. On Saturday, the final night of the event, I was resetting "Jekyll and Hyde's secret storeroom". This involved sneaking in behind groups to replace the mcguffin (a vial of serum) and reset the exit portal. Normally this involves sneaking down the hallway as soon as they're in the storeroom, waiting for the moment they exit the store room to slip in, reset it, then slip back out into the hallway and out a side door... but if groups run close together, I might have to wait in the store room as one group enters the hallway and the next group lingers in the next space, the moment they leave I slip out the door behind them and slip between the buildings to get back to my starting position.

One group however... they were moving so slow and had zero consideration for the fact that there's a production that cares about timing... they caused 2 groups to pile up right behind them. So resetting after them I had to duck into the next room instead of returning back... but then the group right after them was stuck waiting a really long time in that space before they could move forward while another group was in the hall... I literally had nowhere to go and by the sound cues there was only seconds before they came in the room and the group ahead wasn't even starting to leave...

I dropped into the fetal position, started sobbing about how Jekyll killed everyone and just played the victim who was completely broken and hiding, and when they left i cried about how it wasn't safe out there (the portals all led to "in between" spaces where "The Hunter" was).

Funnily enough the guide for that group was the casting director and the actor playing Jekyll/Hyde was one of the main co-directors of the show watching through a crack in the wall going "oh shit" at seeing me still in there.

The actual official plan for that happening was to just suck it up and let it happen... nobody counted on me coming up with split second improvisation to maintain immersion...

#improv #acting #volunteering #charity #panic

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Just highlighting that I'm right there in Texas, right in the "Do Not Travel". I am definitively not safe.

#lgbtq #trans #uspol #lgbt #lgbtqia

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anxiety attack regarding us pol, transphobia, antisemitism, health

Totally beyond overwhelmed right...

Moves wildly overwhelm me in the best of times, but now I'm:
* getting over being sick, still losing sleep from coughing and occasional debilitatingly painful coughing fits
* still exhausted from recent overwhelming emotional labor a couple of weeks ago
* massive anxiety over being hyper aware of increasing threats to my safety from !the fucking government! for being trans and how it's even fucking with my ID and ability to legally drive (I literally have no valid photo id right now, and terrified that'll block me from moving in)
* next month is an election that determines whether this country continues its descent into mirroring Nazi Germany
* nevermind that sickness and anxiety kept me from attending The High Holy Days at synagogue!
* or the fact that said synagogue still has the persistent reminder of being firebombed back in 2021 and anti-semitism is only getting worse so I'm always a little afraid when attending

I just... can't... but I still have to keep moving somehow...

#lgbt #anxiety




Good watch for those of you not in the US to understand how bad the country is

youtu.be/eRPeU1DYOWA?si=iaX8x8…

#adhd #dystopia #WeNeedHelp