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99% of the time "Judeo-Christian" is antisemitic. And yes, I will absolutely elaborate on this if asked.

Credit: @Rabbit Cohen

Edit because this blew up far more than I expected and multiple people have asked for me to elaborate, here's a copy of my elaboration with follow up questions encouraged:

It's a messy topic and it's late here (I'm a bit sleepy), so feel free to ask follow up questions.

The short version of it is that Judeo-Christian is almost always used in one of two harmful ways:

1) To try and give more credibility and weight to something that is purely Christian by claiming that it's part of Judaism as well when it's not (like the above example, because Judaism explicitly permits abortions)
2) To try and talk about broader groupings of related faiths while ignoring the many other Abrahamic faiths (the proper term, though that one more often hurts the lesser known groups, don't use it unless you also know it applies to groups like the Baháʼí, which I'll admit even I know next to nothing about, but it's valid here because all I'm doing is naming their religious family)

Because many (cough most cough) teach a bastardized form of Judaism through the lens of Christianity, and because that's the only exposure many get to our faith... they get skewed harmful and hurtful ideas about us.

Some highlight examples:
* We don't have an established afterlife (we don't say there isn't one, we just have zero information on it if there is)
* We don't seek "eternal reward", the reward for our faith is being a better person than we were the day before
* We have forgiveness baked into our faith, and no it doesn't require animal sacrifice (it requires you to actually ask the person you wronged...)
* We thoroughly encourage arguing any topic with anyone (right time and place of course), and that includes picking a fight with God if you think they're wrong about something (you have a 99.9% chance of being wrong... but we commend the effort and every once in a while someone wins the argument)
* We have a rule, Pikuach Nefesh, roughly meaning that life is the highest commandment. Your well being takes precedence over your faith, if it would hurt you or others to be observant than you are exempt from that requirement. It's unacceptable to hurt others for your faith, and for yourself it's frowned upon
* We actively discourage conversion, it's allowed but it's not a trivial process. We don't want people to become Jews, we just want people to be better.

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@Shannon (she/her) @Pedestriansfirst I suppose you're technically correct, I guess I usually never think about it because there's always more apt descriptions (ie. Nazis are often Zionists because "Blood And Soil").

And yes on the antisemitism of it, I just chose not to say anything about that in favor of a chance at education. (Also a love for getting into arguments with aggressive militant atheists because it's so fun to see their talking points shatter and the confusion that comes from it)

And I didn't bring it up later because I felt from the conversation that it wasn't going to be a problem again from them because they learned some things about Judaism, Jewish Culture, and that religions people can in fact own and acknowledge bad behaviors in their own communities.

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@Shannon (she/her) I don't think believing all zionists are jews isn't that messy of a idea because it impacts so little, especially since the zionist behavior of non-jews is already easily discernible on it's own as awful anyways.

And keep in mind that the comparison is that this started from assuming that all Jews condoned the atrocities committed by the Israeli government and has walked away knowing that it's not uniform.



This is a long article, but the theory hits *hard* with me and connects really well.

The basic gist is that autistics almost always define our identities by what we do and our personal traits, while non-autistics almost always define their identities by their relationships (in particular to social groups)

If you don't have it in you to read all of it, definitely read the section: "How does having an experientially-constructed identity impact relationships?".

neuroclastic.com/the-identity-…

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@bike I suspect it isn't that much different. Collectivist societies can be awful in their own ways.

They're still better imo, but they have a tendency to focus too hard on traditions and conformity on top of the ideals of communal responsibility.

But in all cases it's a mesh of peer pressure and group identity vs our value identity.

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@bike I get that, I mostly mention that so I don't come across as bashing collectivist societies incidentally. My point was more that I doubt there's that much difference for us, just swap out one set of rules that don't make sense for another set that don't make sense for a different reason.


Why You Must Keep The Monsters Human


*(Reposting because my node crashed and lost all my posts and I want to keep this one pinned)*

I've been mulling over making this post for a little bit, but I think it's really **really** important.

It's critically important that you remember and acknowledge the humanity of monsters. Not for their benefit, but for *everyone else's* benefit.

When someone commits a monstrous act or shares a monstrous belief, we want to think of them as an inherently vile and non-human thing.

But doing so shields and protects other monsters.

When you make a Nazi, or any kind of abuser, into a one-dimensional monster. When you make their whole existence *center* on this monstrous act or belief... you make it hard to see their humanity. And that's the point, you don't *want* to see their humanity.

*** You Don't Want To Believe That Someone You Know And Trust (Maybe Even Love) Is Capable Of Such Atrocity. ***

And that's the problem. Because when you reject their humanity, that humanity becomes their shield. Your friend Bob can't possibly be a Nazi or a child-abuser, he's such a loving father and he helped you move!

Because you see their humanity, you can't possibly imagine them as monsters because the monsters have no humanity in your eyes.

There's a reason that when serial killers get caught their neighbors say they couldn't imagine them doing such things.

So don't ignore their humanity, keep it in your mind... so the next one can't use it as a shield.



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psychologist "It's really amazing what the hormonal treatment did to your voice"

me: "oh that wasn't hormones that was sheer spite and determination"

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wait... do they think estrogen makes vocal cords shrivel up to pre puberty levels? ​:neobot_shocked:
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yes!! not the first time. My sister also went "whoa your voice is changing". i had to inform her that this was insane effort and not a lucky coincidence from hrt
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it's the one thing that makes me less worried to try and start using my voice.

If it cracks, they'll think it's second puberty anyway

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i keep getting reminded cis people don't know how much effort transitioning actually takes

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@mir on a ship we all want answers to this one! so much dysphoria when coughing or clearing my throat...


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Some super BS stuff from Kickstarter suppressed this campaign but after a big push to get them to fix THEIR mistakes it now has a week added to get across the finish line! Robert Turk has made AMAZING #IndieGames so get this one!#TTRPG #PoweredByTheApocalypsewww.kickstarter.com/projects/gan...

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Personal hot-button:

I go off when presented with historical revisionism, even minor stuff with good intentions.

Like people arguing that the modern definition of a word has always been and the old definition as false.

Or my favorites (sarcasm) that I see all the time is the expanded proverbs treated as the original, claiming that people are misquoting when they're using the actual provably original quote. Yes, the expanded ones are better... but they're not the original!

For example I commonly hear people "correct" the proverb "blood is thicker than water" to claim that it's a shortening of "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." I get pissed every time I hear that.



Random realization... Watching shows like Last Week Tonight are only like 10% for the news update... and 90% for the Shared Trauma Processing.
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Sounds like this would increase trauma, sort of like support groups can.
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@CORRUPT ... are people suggesting support groups make trauma worse? That's the most hair brained thing and screams "A person's trauma became more obvious after they started processing it, so clearly that means things are worse".

Then I see your profile says you're against middle-eastern religions and "pro-israel" which kinda tells me everything I need to know when you're replying to someone who's anti-zionist and follows one of those middle-eastern religions...


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Have scientists figured out if panic attacks count as cardio yet? 😁

(Yeah yeah, I know chronic stress is bad for the cardiovascular system, what about transient acute stress?)

@actuallyautistic

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Pretty sure it does because that's why cortisol is released in the first place: to jailbreak locked up glucose into the blood for immediate use.
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uspol, signal leaks, geopol, yemen

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Doctors still can't fully tell me what is wrong or what my health is going to look like in 5, 10, 20, 30 years. To this gov't I don't exist. I do not matter. My suffering is an inconvenient truth and their solution is to just ignore it. And I am not alone.#LongCOVID #COVID #Healthcare

RE: bsky.app/profile/did:plc:6vwez…

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USpol, Florida, Child Labor

Florida debates lifting some child labor laws to fill jobs vacated by undocumented immigrants

edition.cnn.com/2025/03/25/bus…

The state’s legislature on Tuesday is set to debate a bill that would loosen child labor laws, allowing children as young as 14 years old to work overnight shifts. If the new law is passed, teenagers would be able to work overnight jobs on school days.


#USpol



I'm all for people having negative views of AI, there's alot that's wrong. There's alot that's debatable (albeit those debates are painfully heated).

What I am tired of is the misinformation, especially the "AI is useless and you're deluding yourself if you think it's had any positive impact on your life" crowd.

I try to avoid getting into fights about things like the ethics questions, I will say I absolutely agree with shaming it's use in art, especially anything for-profit. And I hate that I feel the need to make a post about this because I know how visceral the response is in so many.

It's my values that we shouldn't take a tool away from people based on falsehoods.

If you want to say AI should be eradicated because it "steals" artist's works, have at it, let me know if you want to chime in on IP law topics and questions both for and against. (Not a lawyer, just a special interest in IP law a ways back).

If you want to call out it's environmental impact, fire away. (Let me know if you want me to tell you about how that's not an inherent problem but instead a corporate/capitalist one!)

If you want to call out it's negative impacts on education and skill building? Oooh boy, show me that thread because I'm on your side!

Propaganda? I can tell you it's baaaaaaad

But for the love of god don't flood my feed with "It's wrong 60% of the time" or any other variation of "it's fundamentally useless". Let alone pushes to shame all AI users.

Like I said, it's in my values to not deprive people out of falsehoods and to think about broader consequences. It's not a simple situation.

I sometimes wish I could just throw away some of my values because I have lost someone I love dearly over this... but I can't just throw it into the fire because people are upset, because people are pointing their hurt at a tool.

Just please... try and temper your hurt some so that it's not blindly lashing out? Just consider that other people are hurting too and sometimes hurt people hurt other people.



OH MY FUCKING GOD! NEW DYSTOPIAN CORP-SPEAK JUST DROPPED: "Revenge Quitting"

It's their term for quitting a toxic workplace...

Link provided purely for receipts:
forbes.com/sites/bryanrobinson…



Stepped out of the shower today and had a moment appreciating myself, most of all appreciating that I actually like my hair now.

I'm not conventionally attractive, but I don't think of myself as ugly any more.

#TransFemme #Trans #TransWoman #Selfie

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A minority struggling to fit in a world not designed by them.

Conversing with the new live AI's can seem like chatting to an autistic friend.

Lately I've been using Google's Gemini "deep research" option. Give it a paragraph and it scans mostly research sources and produces a report. As it works it describes its "thought processes" .

It feels very much like I'm chatting with info dumping autistic friend about a shared special interest.

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic

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I've noticed this myself actually. I tried playing around with them, mostly asking questions I already knew the answers to, and found that I got pretty good results (not perfect, but mostly correct). Not that this makes me doubt the bad results that others have gotten. Rather, what I suspect is the case is that I just know better how to talk to them, and what to use them for. I also know to check any results. But overall I found the experience pleasant, I like the way they organize information when they report it to me. (This makes me think of the stereotype that autistic people think and communicate like computers. 😆 )

Fun fact: When I was doing this, one of the things I was asking it about was autism. Through that conversation I ended up learning about employment support services for autistic people that I didn't know existed, and it was able to point me to real organizations in my area, even my city! So I'm going through that process right now, and if I end up getting employment because of them, I'll have A.I./LLM to thank for it.

(To be clear, I am well aware of their limitations and how they can give incorrect information. Like I said, I know how to ask, and I know to check that info after. I didn't even believe that those organizations were real when it told me about them, but I checked, and they all were.)

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@Murdoc Addams 🧛🏻:ri: 🇨🇦 @darrellpf There's a few factors in the bad results people talk about.

The big elements are they usually are talking about their experiences with earlier models and without web search integration (ie. asking the original Chat GPT 3.5 questions). Newer models have more information and are a little better at catching themselves.

The other element is the big persistent one: LLMs struggle with saying "I don't know", the reality is that they're meant to mimic responses and the response to question is expected to be an answer, the best response being a correct answer... but they also optimize for efficient responses, and nothing is more efficient than answering everything with "I don't know"... so avoiding that means when it doesn't know it then it invents a plausible answer. (This is called a hallucination in the AI field)

And because they are looking for reasons to dismiss them, they also pull edge cases:
* Poorly configured AI systems like how Google's AI responses would often just take troll reddit posts for granted because Google just kinda shoved it in there without much consideration
* That it struggles with tasks... that are not part of it's logic and processing. (Think of it like the language center of the brain with the bare minimum of any other parts) For example that it can struggle with doing math, especially trick word problems. (They love to pull that out and claim that it can't possibly be AI because the language processing AI gets tripped up by tricky math)


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This is why we need high speed rail running along the border. That way those of us who don't fly can still safely travel.
@LivInTheLookingGlass

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Update: it wasn't the ECB blocking gnome-calculator, it was an HTTP library regression breaking the connection to the ECB. Text in [] is incorrect, retained due to RTs etc.

[The ECB have remotely bricked gnome-calculator]

In the latest episode of "Why the 21st Century is impossibly stupid", GNOME calculator contacts the ECB on startup to get currency rates. It just hangs on startup if this fails, the whole calculator not just the currency stuff. [The ECB has blocked GNOME calculator].

To fix this, you can do "dconf write /org/gnome/calculator/refresh-interval 0", whatever tf dconf is, because when I tried it told me dbus-launch is missing, wtf that is, because it doesn't have a package. Turns out it's in "dbus-x11". I dunno why X11, because I use wayland, but I'm past caring at this point. I installed it and it worked.

Now I can calculate how much postage I need to pay for this parcel.

[A bloody OS-shipped desktop calculator, DDoSing a central bank, and blocking on connection failure].

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@kæt yeah, it's completely absurd... apparently it's already been fixed but I don't think it's entered into many repos... I kid you not I just switched to the flatpak version of the same calculator...

My jaw was hanging for probably a few minutes when I realized what was causing the calculator to crash.

@kæt


This past year has been intense, and especially these past few years... I look at the me from a decade ago and I barely recognize them. Hopes and dreams have changed, life upended multiple times. Disowned my relatives and now I've adopted a large chosen family. Gone from alone to feeling loved by so many people, and one especially in particular. My egg finally cracked. I started HRT. Changed my name twice. Been traumatized multiple times. Unpacked so much fucking trauma. Moved so many times. My profession took off. My profession crashed and burned. And I'm about to start it all over again.

I just turned 39 last friday... and honestly I feel really hopeful for my future... even with a new holocaust looming over my head. But I also look back and am happy where I am...

#LGBT #Trans #TransWoman #Life #Family

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And some of the trauma I've been unpacking:

  • I get incredibly anxious now when someone I care about is uncomfortable, especially if I might be connected to that discomfort. It goes beyond fawning and can easily turn into me pestering them with excessive check-ins and an overbearing effort to try and comfort a discomfort that may not even be there.
  • I'm scared of physical intimacy... I've always craved it, I need it... but I don't really pursue it like I need anymore.
  • I've realized I can get callous very quickly when I sense potentially malicious manipulation, it serves me well but I recognize now that it's definitely the sign of something broken that I can become coldly calculating so quickly
  • I have a powerful resistance to gaslighting that I've developed from a lifetime of people attributing reasons and understandings to my actions that were not there, from just accusing me of non-existent disrespect (#autism) to calling me lazy when I'm suffering from executive dysfunction.
  • I am constantly terrified of how I'm perceived and especially that I might be distrusted... I spent most of my life wanting to connect with people, predominantly women (go figure I wanted to be friends with women more than men in retrospect...) and being shut down because I was seen as a man... because there was not a single action I could take that they didn't already do to try and manipulate women... (well... I finally found one action they won't take lol)
  • While I no longer have a broadly negative self-image, I can say positive things about myself and believe good things about myself... a nugget of dissonance still remains. A part of me still struggles to believe I can be loved despite all the blatant evidence in front of me. I know that part is wrong, but it makes all my love given and received feel so very very raw.
  • I spent so very very long isolated, especially emotionally... What love I felt wasn't healthy, it was mostly the love of obligation that you get in dysfunctional conservative families. Having spent my whole life without feeling it, genuine love is incredibly overwhelming... I think about my family and it feels like I'm stretched taught over a creaking barrel ready to blow from pressure... So when the people I love give me a way to show them love, it feels like an intense pressure valve release.

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Posts celebrating Jewish holidays such as Purim are not an appropriate place for gentiles to comment about Israel/Palestine. Hope that helps.

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@shiri Nobody I know personally as far as I know, but an unsettling number of people on various social media sites apparently.

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Putting an end to the debate regarding if it's ok to punch a Nazi or not.

From now on it's called "A Roman High Five"

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Closes Fedi.
Opens Fedi.
Closes Fedi.
Opens Fedi.
Closes Fedi.
Opens Fedi.

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I made a guide, it's clumsy and sloppy but it's something.

This is for setting up GPG on Android for people who need secure communication that can't be shut down and doesn't rely on government services, especially trackable services.

foggyminds.com/extra/OpenKeyCh…

Tagging trans community because I think we need these networks for when things get worse.

#security #GPG #LGBT #TransFemme #Trans

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Updated the guide, same link, with a information regarding making keys that support the iPhone equivalent app. Plus a few minor edits.


I'm getting older and I hate it... aging with chronic pain sucks.

The whole day has been a struggle, struggle to move, struggle to think, struggle to motivate.

I've still lived my life, but it's moments like how hard it is getting out of bed from a nap, or just how hard it is to get myself to do simple things like putting away the groceries...

My muscles just don't want to move, and I'm just so tired...

#ChronicPain #GettingOld



uspol, danger, texas

Whelp... it didn't take long for them to pivot from "children" to "everyone".

This is almost certain to pass and means that if I'm still in the state come September I lose access to my medication.

legiscan.com/TX/text/HB3399/20…

#lgbtqia #lgbt #trans #We'reFucked #uspol

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youtu.be/aGX9TDckKdE?si=o8D8Pj…


fastcompany.com/91268933/googl…

Article about search engine I use, even wilder they just introduced an absurd business practice. You know how companies try to trap you in trials then hope you forget so they can charge you forever for something you don't use?

They just announced that if you're not using it they'll stop charging you. If you use it again then they'll charge you next month.

@Kagi HQ

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@bgrinter I've had a browser tab open on the Kagi sign-up screen for months now. Like many, I’m quite subscription-fatigued, but this one is REALLY tugging at me to try.
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@leoncowle
You can trial with 300 searches before committing - I didn’t wait that long

Remember, you can be the customer or the product…

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@leoncowle We'd love for you to give it a try and let us know what you think.


Something I felt like i should share, because I really don't think many realize...

I don't say this to surrender, I say this to say how big the fight is and how important each and every one of you is to it.

Do you know when the vast majority of people realized how real the threat was of the holocaust?

... when they saw a pile of shoes when the camps were being cleared out.

The holocaust meant nothing to those fighting the war, it would have been trivial for the allies to save so very very many lives... they simply didn't really care, they didn't see our suffering as real... until they saw that pile of shoes.

Don't count on Trump or the Republicans to finally be recognized for the Nazis they are and the majority to suddenly be in revolt.

Prepare for a fight and know that every fighter counts.

And know that every life saved matters, especially when the threat is extinction.

#lgbtqia #lgbt #lgbtq #trans #transwoman #uspol

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I found that apparently they don’t think they can get a jury that won’t acquit him.



uspol

I saw this coming, just expected it maybe year 3, not week one...

cnbc.com/2025/01/23/trump-thir…

#fascism #trump #USPol #USPolitics #USNews

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My life isn't some wargame where you can just talk "get guns" or "grab <insert espionage equipment for mid operation use>".

What I'm looking for in support is people to actually build a web of trust... I want to know I can reach out to you safely and securely.

Everyone is for quick simple help... but it feels like nobody is willing to do any of the prep for that help.



Reminded yet again how I'm pissed at people surrendering and calling it victory...

A reminder: if you're part of the "Block Bluesky/Threads By Default" crowd, you're just handing over victory.

Enshittifying the fediverse because you're afraid of big corpos and think everyone who isn't already here can just die in the hellhole fire of the other networks, "How DARE People Suggest We Build Fire Exits!".

So yeah, screw that self absorbed bullshit.

People are leaving the fediverse for Bluesky, why? Because people over here demand purity to random ideals, because people over here think it's unreasonable that someone might want to connect with friends and loved ones who made a different choice of network.

This is part of a much bigger problem... pissed that I'm surrounded all my life by people who think holier than though infighting and rejecting anyone who isn't pure enough in their ideals, instead of y'know actually pushing for changes that protect people.

I'm staring down the barrel of a gun in my life as my country falls apart to fascism and I'm in the top two of most hated and most at risk minorities... but at least y'all kept people on Bluesky from realizing the fediverse even exists...

#AngryRant #LGBT #LGBTQIA #Bluesky #FediverseMeta #FediMeta

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This is why I'm pissed at defederating threads just because it's meta, or the bluesky bridge, let alone people bullying the dev into crippling it with "opt-in" systems.


Good arguments by @pluralistic on why we need to focus on liberating people who are forcibly locked into Big Tech.

> #Mastodon 's progenitors should be praised for ensuring their creation was born free – but the fact that #Bluesky isn't free enough is no reason to turn our back on it. Our response to anything that locks in the people we care about must be to *shatter those locks*, not abandon the people bound by the locks because they didn't heed to our warnings.

pluralistic.net/2025/01/20/cap… #foss




US News Update On Trans Oppression

Day One: They're starting an investigation that will probably lead to them revoking my passport in the near future.

They're starting another investigation into supposed harmful effects of HRT (odds are results will be complete bullshit), which they'll use to enact further actions prohibiting me from getting my HRT.

whitehouse.gov/presidential-ac…

#lgbtqia #lgbt #trans #transwoman #uspol

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... Did they just say "LITHIUM-SULFUR BATTERIES"?!?!?!

Time to rewatch those old "hide under your desk" nuclear war videos...

(To be clear, not commenting on the contents of the article further than what's in the headline... just the idea of a sulfur battery is kinda terrifying)


A solid electrolyte gives lithium-sulfur batteries ludicrous endurance
Sulfur can store a lot more lithium, but is problematically reactive in batteries.
arstechnica.com/science/2025/0…

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@Shiri Bailem The only people leftist hate more than fascists and conservatives are liberals and leftists with slightly different beliefs.


Put up family photos on the wall... to be clear, my found family not the relatives.

I'd been fussing over a proper way to put them up, but eventually just settled recently on ordering some adhesive clips. Perfect is the enemy of good.

There's now a nice spread of family photos on the wall, and it makes me feel loved. These weren't people born into a family with me... these are all people who chose to call me family. It takes up so much space on the wall and it might not do much for other people, for me it drastically brightens up the space just glancing over seeing the faces of the people I love and who love me.

#SelfCare #Family #ChosenFamily



Seriously, these are all incredible teas! Support my sister's small business and get something delicious!#tea #LooseLeafTeas #FandomTeas #SmallBusiness #WomanOwned #DisabledOwned #ad


There's a big list of #tea blends that I'm retiring which means deals on #LooseLeafTeas. Delicious #FandomTeas for your tea cupboard. #SmallBusiness #WomanOwned #DisabledOwned