@shiri exactly what my therapist has been working on me about
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@12 shes likely already a puddle to be honest she melts faster than butter on a hot knife
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@12 because im still broken and dont deserve it till i have fixed myself more
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@Antonia jones @12 Freya it/itsππΉπ π© @BriHell π₯π (Brielle Labingi) you deserve love and care. The first thing to start doing is saying that, even if you don't feel it or mean it.
(a quirk of neurology is that we internalize the words we say about ourselves and weirdly tone and intent don't matter... so sarcastically complimenting yourself still eventually leads to higher self-esteem... likewise even if you don't believe it, telling yourself that you deserve love will help you later feel it)
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in reply to Antonia jones • •@Antonia jones yeah, it's from cognitive behavioral therapy. And like I said the weirdest part of it is how the words matter more than the meaning you intend.
So for instance saying "Of course I deserve love and affection" sarcastically does actually help your mental state even if it's just another way of saying you don't.
I struggled hard for a very long time with critically low self-esteem and self-worth, I'm not going to pretend this is some easy light switch... it's just something that nudges things over time... like it might take years to really turn around, but it matters because those are years where you'd otherwise be getting worse.
The other big advice, and a rule I sometimes struggle to follow but has been huge in my development: never reject or dismiss a complement. You don't have to accept it or believe it, but never brush it off.
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