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@shiri exactly what my therapist has been working on me about
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@Antonia jones @12 Freya it/itsπ’€­π’ˆΉπ’ π’Š© @BriHell πŸ”₯😈 (Brielle Labingi) you deserve love and care. The first thing to start doing is saying that, even if you don't feel it or mean it.

(a quirk of neurology is that we internalize the words we say about ourselves and weirdly tone and intent don't matter... so sarcastically complimenting yourself still eventually leads to higher self-esteem... likewise even if you don't believe it, telling yourself that you deserve love will help you later feel it)


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@Antonia jones yeah, it's from cognitive behavioral therapy. And like I said the weirdest part of it is how the words matter more than the meaning you intend.

So for instance saying "Of course I deserve love and affection" sarcastically does actually help your mental state even if it's just another way of saying you don't.

I struggled hard for a very long time with critically low self-esteem and self-worth, I'm not going to pretend this is some easy light switch... it's just something that nudges things over time... like it might take years to really turn around, but it matters because those are years where you'd otherwise be getting worse.

The other big advice, and a rule I sometimes struggle to follow but has been huge in my development: never reject or dismiss a complement. You don't have to accept it or believe it, but never brush it off.



Fedi is legit filled with so many cute girls :3

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@shiri yes, cutething, we're all gonna gang up on you till you melt into our arms and admit that you're not only good, and cute, but hot, and loved and lovable
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@Chaos1842 @shiri hmm. thought. We can tell her she's a good girl in at least two languages, English and Gaeilge, but not Cymraeg
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@12 @shiri calling you cute adorable and beautiful because your a good girl or merch dda is always fair
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@12 @shiri ok cutie guess ill just have to talk about how cute you are on your behalf and maybe even share proof, like you in my t-shirt that i "accidentally" left there
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@12 @shiri while im not blind (though i was temporarily due to treatment under Moorfields eye hospital for 6 months at age 10) i am partially sighted (blind except for a small amount of peripheral vision in my left eye) and can say 100% she is super cute
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@Antonia jones @12 Freya it/itsπ’€­π’ˆΉπ’ π’Š© @BriHell πŸ”₯😈 (Brielle Labingi) you deserve love and care. The first thing to start doing is saying that, even if you don't feel it or mean it.

(a quirk of neurology is that we internalize the words we say about ourselves and weirdly tone and intent don't matter... so sarcastically complimenting yourself still eventually leads to higher self-esteem... likewise even if you don't believe it, telling yourself that you deserve love will help you later feel it)

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@shiri @Chaos1842 and probably actually make sure we remember how to in Gaeilge since we haven't done anything with that language for a fucking long time
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How!?!)!?!

This must be a joke

Fr what's going onnnn

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Seriously!?!)!)!()!Β£!Β£!Β£+3!";3+

Okay chat....calm...

This must be a joke....

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Shouldn't have fly hacked to cloud 9 cutie πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

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