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in reply to Shiri Bailem

Well, regarding disablities:

I don't know if I should still write something like this nowadays - but so be it.
2-3 years ago I went by train and there was a person in a wheelchair without legs, who turned on everyone else.
I kept out of it, but when I got off I had to inevitably pass him and he he had also for me me a stupid saying in store.
I was really annoyed by him and asked him where he was going? to a dance contest?
*concerned silence*
He started to laugh and said that I was the only one who would take him seriously.
I see him 1-2 times a year at most, but a friendship has grown out of the situation :)

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in reply to Raroun

@Raroun I call that a lucky bit of chemistry. Also, just because someone isn't using saying ableist things doesn't mean they're being ableist... walking lightly around disabled people is also it's own form of ableism that gets really tiring.

And I'm not even sure your joke is what I was talking about since it was very direct and more a specific targeted jab that happened to reference their disability, you didn't even mark it as something shameful but rather just spouted an absurdity.

A prime example would be something like mocking the lisp of a Nazi. Sure, that person is a Nazi... but what about all the non-Nazis that you're also mocking at the same time?




Call For Mutual Aid!

One of my sibling's friends was hit by a car and is temporarily disabled, they're currently living off of only $70 in food stamps while they can't work and every little bit can help!

They've been in this state for a few weeks but only now broke down and asked for help (we all know how it is with hyper-independence).

They can take donations over Paypal here: bigcloud456@yahoo.com

#mutualaid

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Whelp, Facebook suspended my account, so y'all have my full attention for now!

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Shiri Bailem

@Faye Loves Godzilla ah, the party who will at best do nothing about cops and war...

I'm not saying don't vote for them, but don't pretend they're any good.

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Shiri Bailem

@Faye Loves Godzilla they don't remotely represent me, they think our existence can be bargained with for "middle ground" with nazis.

The no-spine, concede to Nazis part is marginally better than Nazis, which is why I vote for them. But I don't ever pretend that they're "good".



Some updates since it's been a messy few days and I really should have said something sooner.

After a post of mine went viral, server encountered some load issues that kinda cascaded.

I've been gradually reducing the impact through tuning, and have ordered more ram sticks to expand the available ram on the server, as well as give me room on another server to provide redundancy (so it can try to spread the load between boxes).

Ram sticks for the second box will arrive tomorrow, I'll review how I want to approach things from there. No planned downtime for tomorrow, but a planned downtime for next Tuesday with the other ram sticks arrive.

Side note: I've made a custom error page to at least make it less painful, no blaring white, automatic attempts to refresh the page, and my email address to reach out about it if needed.



Open invite to ask questions since a lot of people here have shown interest.

I'm willing to share my experience with Judaism, notably as a Jewish convert (but don't confuse me for a rabbi), as well as my experience as an autistic (and how the two interact).

I'm very open to questions, even about sensitive topics, but I do ask potentially sensitive questions be put in a content warning for the sake of others.

#jewish #judaism #ActuallyAutistic

Edit: Boosting / Resharing is encouraged

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There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the other person, but because if you don't speak, they have changed you.
- Mary Quinn

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Pulled from an uncredited facebook post with an image of the text:

Quickest player death

D&D story time.

I was running the first session of a new campaign. Everyone starting at level 1. We had an EIf Druid, a Half Elf ranger, a Dragonborn Sorcerer, and a Tiefling Rouge. As the party was going through introductions:

5'2 90 Ib. Tiefling “I don't like to be touched.”

6'3 250 Ib. Dragonborn “I pat her on the head.”

Tiefling “I bite his hand”

Ok so you bite his hand... roll to hit

Rolls NAT20.

Roll 1d4 damage...?

Rolls 4 doubles to 8

Dragonborn sorcerer only has 8 hp.

Ok so you bite his hand off and he is now bleeding out.

No one has any healing pots or magic. All level 1 characters.

Dragonborn rolls 3 on death save.

Next save Nat 1.

Dragonborn is dead.

Tiefling “I said I don't like to be touched.”

#ttrpg #dnd

in reply to Shiri Bailem

this reminds me of one instance where a PC died on _session 0_

I can't remember the details, but it was an item that had a chance of inflicting damage, and it killed them.



99% of the time "Judeo-Christian" is antisemitic. And yes, I will absolutely elaborate on this if asked.

Credit: @Rabbit Cohen

Edit because this blew up far more than I expected and multiple people have asked for me to elaborate, here's a copy of my elaboration with follow up questions encouraged:

It's a messy topic and it's late here (I'm a bit sleepy), so feel free to ask follow up questions.

The short version of it is that Judeo-Christian is almost always used in one of two harmful ways:

1) To try and give more credibility and weight to something that is purely Christian by claiming that it's part of Judaism as well when it's not (like the above example, because Judaism explicitly permits abortions)
2) To try and talk about broader groupings of related faiths while ignoring the many other Abrahamic faiths (the proper term, though that one more often hurts the lesser known groups, don't use it unless you also know it applies to groups like the Baháʼí, which I'll admit even I know next to nothing about, but it's valid here because all I'm doing is naming their religious family)

Because many (cough most cough) teach a bastardized form of Judaism through the lens of Christianity, and because that's the only exposure many get to our faith... they get skewed harmful and hurtful ideas about us.

Some highlight examples:
* We don't have an established afterlife (we don't say there isn't one, we just have zero information on it if there is)
* We don't seek "eternal reward", the reward for our faith is being a better person than we were the day before
* We have forgiveness baked into our faith, and no it doesn't require animal sacrifice (it requires you to actually ask the person you wronged...)
* We thoroughly encourage arguing any topic with anyone (right time and place of course), and that includes picking a fight with God if you think they're wrong about something (you have a 99.9% chance of being wrong... but we commend the effort and every once in a while someone wins the argument)
* We have a rule, Pikuach Nefesh, roughly meaning that life is the highest commandment. Your well being takes precedence over your faith, if it would hurt you or others to be observant than you are exempt from that requirement. It's unacceptable to hurt others for your faith, and for yourself it's frowned upon
* We actively discourage conversion, it's allowed but it's not a trivial process. We don't want people to become Jews, we just want people to be better.

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Shiri Bailem

@Shannon (she/her) @Pedestriansfirst I suppose you're technically correct, I guess I usually never think about it because there's always more apt descriptions (ie. Nazis are often Zionists because "Blood And Soil").

And yes on the antisemitism of it, I just chose not to say anything about that in favor of a chance at education. (Also a love for getting into arguments with aggressive militant atheists because it's so fun to see their talking points shatter and the confusion that comes from it)

And I didn't bring it up later because I felt from the conversation that it wasn't going to be a problem again from them because they learned some things about Judaism, Jewish Culture, and that religions people can in fact own and acknowledge bad behaviors in their own communities.

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Shiri Bailem

@Shannon (she/her) I don't think believing all zionists are jews isn't that messy of a idea because it impacts so little, especially since the zionist behavior of non-jews is already easily discernible on it's own as awful anyways.

And keep in mind that the comparison is that this started from assuming that all Jews condoned the atrocities committed by the Israeli government and has walked away knowing that it's not uniform.



Oof...

There's real insights here, but damn it with the pathologizing. They literally treat having moral principles as if it were a disordered negative trait...


Standing up for your values might be decided to be a pathology - If you're autistic


This article picks apart a bunch of biases by the researchers of a given paper. The object of study was the differences in behavior between a group of autistic people and a group of non-autistic people when choosing between prioritizing value for oneself or value for the community.

I recommend reading the paper itself too. If that is, understandably, too much for you, I suggest you go for the introduction, the conclusion, and the segments mentioned in the article.




Stolen from Facebook:

If you ever doubt yourself or your abilities, or your competence, I want you to remember that a man named Elon Musk bought a social platform for $44 billion, ran it into the ground and then changed its named to X. 😐

If you EVER think you aren't good enough, remember that you are smarter than Elon Musk. Remember that there's a billionaire somewhere, who has the sense of a drunk seal. And remember that racism and patriarchy exist to prop up those who wouldn't be able to hold a candle to your genius.

You belong. You're smart enough. You can DO THIS. Impostor syndrome can go to hell. 😤😤😤

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