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I killed an icebreaker thread in my work's queer ERG chat.

The icebreaker question was: "What hope do you have for the future of our LGBTQIA+ community 10 years from now?"

Lots of responses, several of them starting with "As an ally..."

My reply was:
"I would like to be able to travel to Florida again."

It's been four hours and there have been no more replies.

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Given the constant harm indicated in trans ppl , it doesn't surprise me how readily the dopamine hit from swinging back becomes an addiction.

However most frequently the most marginalized of us suffer when that temptation goes unchecked.

Be weary of charismatic figures.

BE KIND.

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If you’re planning on using the iOS app to support your favorite author on Patreon, please reconsider. From this November, a significant portion (30%) of your pledge will go to Apple. Let’s make sure your support reaches the author directly! #SupportAuthors #Patreon


Servers that consume significant resources (ie. fediverse servers...) cost so much... 😭

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smh at all these windows users for having a hard time choosing one debloated windows iso over another. there's way too many! who needs this much variety? one day people will see the light of linux, and they'll never ever ever have to pick and choose again. ever

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Sorry for the downtime


Housing situation has been a pain, still on the temporary server environment and been hitting major resources bottlenecks.

I'm hoping to get a place sooner, but I've hit some roadblocks that very likely will push it drastically further out... in which case I'll need to spend more money on this environment to return things to stable.

Reminder that I'm covering this entirely out of my own pocket and these constraints are because I'm between homes and can't use my own much cheaper hardware. If you appreciate this instance I would very much appreciate a donation.

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I’m at the retirement party for a friend of my wife’s and I don’t know anybody and she asks me about an old picture so I look it up and she says, β€œI need to show this to someone!” and grabs my phone and scurries off.

And I’m left at the table _without my phone_.

I could go to the bathroom but _I don’t have my phone_.

I decide to just disassociate, but _y’know_.

I would talk to people, but I’m not a monster.

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"AIPAC, I'm coming to tear your kingdom down!"

#Progressive Congresswoman #CoriBush of #Missouri gave a fiery concession speech hours ago after losing the Democratic primary to her #AIPAC supported challenger Wesley Bell in one of the most expensive U.S. House races in history.

Hear Bell's victory speech at 03:37 mark.
youtube.com/watch?v=o3Qtqlpvil…

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US Pol, racism, queermisia

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I think a lot of transandrophobia denialism comes from a place of misunderstanding intersectionality. Like, people think it’s β€œmarginalisation 1 + marginalisation 2 = double oppression”, and then they end up thinking β€œwell trans people are oppressed, but men aren’t, so trans men and trans mascs only experience regular transphobia”. But it’s not really like that. You can’t just add up the vectors on the axes of marginalisation, you have to account for the unique ways they interact.

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I have experience with a couple transmasc people and they were disappointing
I have had less experience with other transmasc people that were much better, but shallower
in reply to Efi (nap pet) πŸ¦ŠπŸ’€

@efi Ok? But like, this isn't a post about other people's experiences with trans masc people, this is a post about trans masc people's experiences.

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There's a certain kind of leftist that goes absolutely apeshit if they get wind of someone who's working at a job facing any kind of consequences, however minor, for any kind of misconduct, however major.

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Yes, I had the displeasure of knowing some of them in the answers to this post:

social.treehouse.systems/@revk…

Briefly, because I blocked them.


That is genius!

Update:

LOL, someone reported me to, err, me... The first report I have ever had!

Seems I have to clarify.

All junk calls I get, are either not legal under PECR, or actually fraudulent. I am assuming this is the nature of this call. If not, then not so funny.

I have zero sympathy for someone that works for criminals. Arguing that the only job you can get is working for criminals does not justify it. Sorry. But that is my free speech opinion.

So I won't be suspending myself.



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I really do identify with foxes. I, too, am very loud and never shut up and people find it cute

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same I'm very loud and people think I'm cute for some reason


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You gotta meet your kids where they're at (by u/BookJourneyJane_Girl)
(AI Alt-Text)

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"sub""woofer"?? you mean half of fedi?

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#fediblock for linuxrocks dot online

they're knowingly harboring an infamous techbro transphobe, bryan lunduke, and refused to do anything about it when people pointed that out. in addition to not having any instance rules against transphobia period. so it's clear the admin doesn't give a fuck and this is a dangerous instance worth defederating

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@electricweave it's when your instance/home says "actually, we won't interact with these people anymore"

so in your case that'd be mstdn.social blocking an instance that spreads content which mstdn.social does not want their users seeing, e.g things that go against their rules.


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Dentist Update, Financial Help Needed (Boosts OK!)

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NAME AND GENDER MARKER CHANGE ORDER HAS BEEN SIGNED! WOOOOOO!

... Now for a mountain of other paperwork that's been waiting on that, but all of that at least is quick.



Now I'm cranky because I had to ban a user for genocide denial bullshit...

How the hell do you come onto a blatantly anti-Zionist server and think you're going to get a chill response at claiming the palestinian genocide isn't real?



Date night tonight with my girlfriend, what do y'all think? #TransEuphoria

(Sorry no image description, if someone else writes one I'll copy it, but I'm useless at describing myself)

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hey, just so you know, this status includes an attachment with missing accessibility (alt) text.

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This makes me so sad. The #library was a haven from my miserable, white trash childhood. I walked there nearly every day in summer, sometimes spending all day exploring every aisle. No one hassled me, I learned so much, it opened so many doors. #lgbtq #media #civilrights #freedom #idaho
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Me reading all those slow burn sapphic romances. It shouldn't take half a book to kiss. Hurry up, my queers!
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If you think Harris being a cop is worse than Trump being an aspiring Hitler:

You can go fuck yourself, you're more of a problem than the Nazis - signed, a Jew



A friend's furbaby is suffering and needs care yesterday, please donate if you can: gofundme.com/f/help-giggles-ge…

#MutualAid #pets


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no no, not a teams meeting, it's a meet meeting. on google meet. it might be called duo for you? i sent you a hangouts to the drive link on messages. no no not your gmail inbox, it's under "all mail", not every email goes to the inbox, haha. or if you're using the classic mode it might be under meetups or promotions. yeah where the chats used to be, before they made google voice an RCS thing. have you got it from google play? no not the green one, the new one with the multicoloured icon. you can only use the green one with legacy members. ok so the problem is you're on workspace for business, it's under google one basic now. did you try quick sharing it? no see you can't use it on a tablet, only a phone or laptop, unless you want the plus features, that only works on phones of course. honestly the easiest way from here is through the docs plugin, unless you wanna family share if you can do vowifi



Still processing something...

I'm recovering from the trauma of constantly being hyper-vigilant of how I might present as a threat, constantly focused on how to make others feel safe around me...

and now I've traded it for the trauma of being constantly hyper-vigilant of potential threats around me.

It sucks but honestly I prefer it to the intense sense of isolation and loneliness.

#TransWoman #TransFemme #Transitioning #Trans #Transition

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@Shiri Bailem Much empathy as somebody on their own trauma recovery journey and an lgbtqia background and ally. It's tough out there for many in the trans community with so much ill founded backlash scapegoating in some countries and online.
Solidarity with your journey and hopefully dealing with your hyper vigilance and trauma issues.


Just reaching out for suggestions, it's not often I get people converted to the fediverse but when I do I'm a bit short on suggested instances, especially in variety.

As it stands I've got my own instance, which runs Friendica. But because I'm a nerd who craves all the options at once and will sacrifice some user-friendliness for it, it's good for me not for most users.

Aside from that, I've got lgbtqia.space which is a wonderful Mastodon server I started out on in the fediverse. But obviously leaves me fumbling when helping the rare few friends who aren't in the alphabet.

I'd like suggestions of other open instances (aside from the mega instances like mastodon.social) that I can direct people to, especially of different platforms so they have a little more choice in their experience.

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I love being on Fosstodon. Never had to look back and plenty of interesting people here \m/


I vote we try to convince conservatives that liberal elites have infected their computer software based on this, see if we can get them to throw everything out and self-isolate.





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Random #gender question -- are there any good gender swap apps/tools out there?

I've tried FaceApp in the past, but it wasn't super great.

Yes, I realize playing with those apps as a trans person is a risky move, but here we are

#advice #help #trans #transgender #nonbinary #enby #suggestionswelcome

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The media will call you a Socialist, but they'll never call him a Fascist

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Ah yes the two wings of MSM politics, conservative and fiscally reckless, mad socialist eco-terrorist.
Sample sentence: the conservative-leaning Italian leader, Mussolini, is said by critics to have <whatever>.
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I also like how β€œantifa” has come to mean something sinister. Anti-Fascism is a good thing; Anarchists are another story. It just seems convenient to describe β€œthem” (whoever they are) as antifa and make them the enemy.


Getting tired of people pretending Jews can't possibly know the difference between Holocaust and "run of the mill" genocide (both are bad, one just is much more orchestrated).

But why should I be surprised? The pajamafication of the holocaust means most people don't even understand a damn thing about it anyways.



I'm so incredibly done with people being on a high-horse shitting on advances in AI for no other reason than to feel better about themselves.

Like if your issue is things like copyright and training data? Sure, go off, it's a philosophical argument there about rights, economy, etc. Likewise for arguments about ecological impact (it can be made reasonable there, the companies just don't want to).

But if you're just posting bullshit like "Hahaha, the language model can't do math" or "Look at how it was baited into saying something stupid" as proof that it's worthless: go fuck yourself.

Let alone the people who try to relate AI development to "NFT Bros"... NFTs literally don't do shit, AI actually has multiple proven and valid uses cases but if you think it's the same thing that just shows you have your head up your ass and refuse to look at the world around you.

All of that before getting to the fact that they have shown incredible usefulness for disability accommodations, but I guess it doesn't count if you prefer to be ableist and think we don't need or deserve accommodations?

So tired of people in general right now...

#AI #LLM

#ai #LLM
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> "Hahaha, the language model can't do math"

People don't say that, they say haha the **AI** can't do math.

This problem stems from the LLM owners/developers themselves, by calling their product "AI" -- Artificial *Intelligence* -- instead of just LLM, or "Language generator" or something similar, thus creating the expectation that it actually can think, reason, or compute things instead of just generating plausible-sounding text responses to prompts.

And that choice was apparently deliberate on their part, to hype up the product. IOW, don't advertise or imply with misleading buzzwords that your product can do things it can't and then get upset when people mock it for not being able to do what you wanted them to believe it can do.

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@Lea or maybe just people always had a wrong idea of what early AI would look like?

People just expected it to jump out fully formed as a super-genius rather than baby steps of abilities...

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Maybe, but only because they were taught to by its creators.

Before "generative AI" (creation of new images and text) came out, AI was associated more with things like detecting possible cancer in medical scans, exoplanets in telescope images, recognizing/describing objects in images, finding the structure of proteins, searching for possible new medicines, etc. (not to mention military applications :oh_no: ).

So as I recall it was looked upon as something to help humans solve problems, having great potential in spite of some negative early experiences with things like automatic stock trading.

So IMO these new generative applications should never have been called "AI" because they are not. Even using terms like saying they were "trained" or "learned" from existing art and texts implies intelligent reasoning which is misleading.

Rather, it was the developers who learned how to make their statistical algorithms better able to extract, recombine, and generate similar, plausible-looking (but not true or accurate) output from the mass of data they collected.

IOW, it's those pre-existing AI applications that can at least on some level be said to have been "trained" and to have "learned" to recognize specific kinds of patterns in visual/spatial/textual data and mark it for *humans* to then interpret and judge for accuracy. And certainly not to make up new stuff.

Making up new stuff should be for entertainment purposes only.

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@Lea yeah, that's a fundamental misunderstanding of how these came to be... your examples of non-generative AI are all the same basic technology. In crude terms it's an image enhancement/recognition ai run in reverse. (Then LLMs were cutting out the image part)

Their training process is nearly identical in fact.

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My point is that it's the generative aspect that is the most fundamental and important difference, and that, along with allowing decision-making (as in the stock market example) is where the harm arises.

I haven't seen anything beneficial from generative models, other than as I said before, entertainment, or perhaps some strictly personal use that is not ever disseminated to others.

Generating anything with it for any serious purpose is harmful and with no positive benefit (unless you consider deep fake propaganda a "benefit").

Using it for research papers, legal briefs, class assignments, fake photos, etc. is harmful for so many reasons I don't have room to state them all here.

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@Lea I've seen a whole bunch of practical beneficial uses:

  • I use it personally as a coding assistant (great for repetitive code entry where it'll automatically fill in variable names in repetitive blocks of code, or help with debugging)
  • I've used it time to time as a search aid (when used properly with a good system it can drastically cut down on complex searches, taking something that would have taken me anywhere from a half hour to 2 hours into something that takes 5-10 minutes)
  • Once or twice I've made use of it as a sort of thesaurus to figure out terms when i didn't have enough to search off of (as in, with a normal thesaurus I would give similar words... but I didn't have similar words in these cases)
  • As a disability aid for executive dysfunction (see goblin.tools that "magic to-do list" and "compiler" aren't just gimmicks, they're for people with executive dysfunction who struggle breaking down, separating, and sorting tasks)
  • I've used it personally as an aid for communication. Being an autistic, when communicating with allistics, especially in a professional environment, it can help edit my message/email to maintain the correct tone as well as make sure I'm getting my point across (again see goblin.tools "Formalizer")
  • I've also seen in the wild Amazon's got a great use now where it summarizes user reviews for a product (and this has been practically helpful, I saw some issues with products before buying them there and it gave me cause to look deeper into the reviews to figure out whether that issue mattered to me)

Yes, there are plenty of harmful uses, but if you don't see positive uses you're not looking at all.

There's also the upcoming uses that are still being ironed out but inevitable (as in these aren't just hypotheticals, it's just down to predictable progress):
* Dynamic dialogue in games: tech demos of this have been pretty cool, it's not there to replace writers but to allow NPCs to fluidly talk back to anything rather than purely scripted responses)
* Virtual assistants: you may or may not like them, but many people do like them and being able to handle fluid natural language is a huge step compared to before.

I'm not going to pretend that image generators have much use at the moment, there's technologies that come later that they lead to that can be useful (like dynamic generation of 3d models and environments, which can be good progress towards the goal of "holodecks" in the sense of being able to dynamically call up desired environments then tweaking them to be what you need).

Voice generators right now mostly are just good for nice computer voices and maybe in the future being used to splice in dynamic content (such as player character name) into games (right now games either avoid saying your name entirely, use a stand-in name, and/or have a handful of pre-recorded names that are really cool if they happen to be on the list)

@Lea
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I do admit there may be some beneficial uses of generative not-AI that I haven't been able to think of, or might be someday. Meanwhile the internet is being flooded with generated false or meaningless "content" that is in turn being re-ingested as fodder for even more of the same.

Other than coding assistant, most of your examples sound more like analysis (which is fine) than generation of new content (not fine):

- analyzing human-written prose and flagging possible tone or phrasing problems = analytical. Suggesting replacement text is generative but untrustworthy. You have to check that it isn't saying something you didn't mean to say, then trust that it's an improvement.

- summarizing reviews = analyzing: compiling stats in categories of what the reviews say. Not generating reviews or anything new.

- coding assistant: This *is* generating something: garbage. I've played with it and never gotten anything useful. It can only handle coding problems that have already been solved and included in the training data. Anything requiring it to actually solve a problem not already in its store of code fails. There's no logic or reasoning (as you've already pointed out), which would be required to do that. The main problem I found was it would call functions that don't even exist in the language--I assume it finds people's custom functions scraped from somewhere and just uses those function names as if they were built-in functions in the language.

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@Lea I think you're quibbling over the term "generative" there, a non-generative version would be outputting just variables rather than raw text. Ie. non-generative analysis is just going to be "x% confident, x% aggressive, x% sympathetic..."

  • analyzing prose and flagging tone or phrasing problems = like so many anti-ai people you just assume the person using it is somehow unable to read and understand the text. And frankly as I've already said this is a disability accommodation I'm a little bit pissed off at this response. We can understand these things when pointed out, we can understand whether the text it gives is trash, we're not idiots. What it does is consistently give us text that fixes our tonal issues, and we can recognize those fixes after the fact but can't reasonably do them on our own. So maybe get your head out of your ass when talking about a disability accommodation that someone has first hand experience on and has said so up front.
  • summarizing reviews - again, you're just trying to throw away a point because you don't understand what "generative" or "large language model" means.
  • coding assistant - and again clearly you made one half-assed attempt to make it do more than it's capable of, considered it trash, and then threw the whole thing away. I've used it plenty, I've used it to speed through refactoring a whole project to change database engines out, I've used it to speed through building UIs with a bunch of buttons. Does it create good code when I just ask it to write a whole application for me? Hell no. But it sure as hell can see me writing a list of buttons and go, "Oh, I recognize the pattern of the names I'm going to fill this in 20 more times with all variables names changed to meet the pattern".
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@Lea like I said, you're attacking the definition of generative by ignoring the actual definition.

And I'm done with this conversation since all you're doing is looping back on points I've already called out. You've been an ass, just accept it and move on.

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