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"If I could begin to be, half of what you think of me, I could do about anything, I could even learn how to love... love me like you"

Just feeling this song right now

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Pretty sure I've said this at some point before, but it still hasn't happened yet, so bears repeating:

There really needs to be collabs between Nicholas Cage and Daniel Radcliffe.

They're the same theatrical chaos goblin in different generations, just imagine what would happen putting them on the same project together!



Government's worst case scenario for nationalising water still leaves households better off | We Own It
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#Water




Why do we have so many confusing identities and why should I remember them?

To be honest, you don't need to remember them unless they're relevant to you or those in your life. The only real reason to remember large quantities of them is to help people in their journeys and to help people feel not alone.

Labels, and especially micro-labels, aren't there for you. They're there for us. They're to help us communicate to ourselves that we're not broken, and to communicate to others that we're not just making it up from nowhere (not that you would be any less valid for doing so).

I'm trans because I'm not some broken confused man, I'm a woman, but also because my experience differs from cis women.

I'm gray-sexual, because I'm not defective, it's not some "performance issue". It's genuinely less interest and significantly less need. (Part of the asexual spectrum, it means significantly less sexual attraction or significantly less intense attraction, but not none. Not to be confused with libido which is the need for sexual release.)

I'm polyamorous, because I'm not non-committal or "want permission to cheat", but because I see relationships as ours to define, be it with a single partner or many. I can commit to one and I can commit to many, it's all about the agreements I have with the people I'm in relationships with.

#LGBT #LGBTQIA #Gender #Trans #Identity

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friendica (DFRN) - Link to source
Shiri Bailem
@Ned Hairston :hehim: :theythem: to be clear I didn't assemble that image, I just found one with a set of flags and avoided ones with straight ally or straight flags




One of the things that pisses me off the most is the people always saying "violence is not the answer".

Do you know why Nazi punching is a thing? Why it goes beyond just "fuck nazis"?

Let me break it down a little:

Is violence in self defense okay when someone is attacking you? Obviously, because they're attacking you and "please stop killing me" isn't going to make much difference to someone in the process of killing you.

How about when they're just pointing a gun at you but haven't fired? Yes, because if they pull that trigger you're going to die.

What about when they're just threatening you? Like if someone says "I have a knife and the moment no-one is looking I'm going to stab you"... do you just ask them nicely not to? Do you wait for them to start stabbing before you think it's okay to fight back? You probably recognize that words can be violence then.

Let's go a bit further... let's say someone is stealing and destroying a diabetic's insulin? This is a life saving drug, do you think it's valid to use violence to stop them even though it's not directly killing them? Then you probably recognize that violence isn't just physical attacks on a person.

How about someone rallying people to get together and kill someone? Do you just debate them or do you stop them?

So if someone says they believe trans people shouldn't be allowed to exist? That we shouldn't have access to basic rights like being ourselves in public, or access to our medications? These are people rallying others to attack us, to destroy the things that keep us alive. They may not be actively stabbing us in the moment, but it's still violence against us.

Nazi speech, Terf speech, etc. IS violence. And violence is the appropriate response to violence.

Note how we're not talking about punching someone for just being capitalist, for shouting about free market bullshit. We're talking about punching people calling for our eradication.

Again: violence is the appropriate response to violence.

#PunchNazis #MakeNazisAfraidAgain #LGBT #LGBTQIA








Private companies doing NHS work get a better deal than the NHS would get for doing the same work

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#NHS

#nhs



Thousands will lose their PIP according to govt figures & thousands will be pushed into poverty according to the govt's own figures

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#Disabled
#PIP
#BenefitReforms
#BenefitCuts




Trump says U.S. will have ‘direct talks’ with Iran as strikes on Houthis continue | The Independent
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#Trump
#Iran



Nothing like a little bit of trauma release for your weekend... y'know, as a treat
#MentalHealth


The govt refuses to do impact assessments of the proposed cuts to benefits because they're focused on getting people in to work (I doubt there has been an assessment on the liklihood of it succeeding either or whether getting into work gets you off means tested benefits or out of poverty).

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#BenefitCuts



As someone taking the opposite path from the below image:

I navigated it most of my life by constantly and obsessively managing my threat presence. It felt like a constant battle with the toxicity of other men. I had my guard up not because there was some threat of women assaulting me, but because watching their guard go up around me felt like being stabbed in the gut, like a lifeline getting cut off.

It took trauma and ego death for me to really start building an actual community for myself. I had bits and pieces I had gathered carefully and with great effort, but all that toxicity kept me from knowing what to do with it.

Now, even later, transition has been a massive weight lifted. (For those in the closet or eggs cracking: people clocking you doesn't make much difference here, if they put up that anti-creep guard around you they're a bitch anyways)

I feel like I can breathe. Connection is so much more casually there. I can see it in people's eyes, I can be in a crowd of strangers and I feel drastically less alone.

Unfortunately, those years of malnourished pain don't just disappear. I still have all of those threat management patterns, I feel like I'm scarred and sometimes even bleeding from that. There's a caution in me, afraid that people will misinterpret, that this wonderful person I want to make friends with will abruptly shut down on me and then disappear from my life if I relax too much, if I'm too open... I still feel like I'm emotionally walking on tip toes...

#lgbt #lgbtqia #trans #transmasc #transman #transfemme #transfem #transwoman #toxicMasculinity #Patriarchy





Extra 400,000 people to be signed off as unfit for work under Labour’s welfare reforms, government admits | The Independent
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#BenefitCuts







Personal hot-button:

I go off when presented with historical revisionism, even minor stuff with good intentions.

Like people arguing that the modern definition of a word has always been and the old definition as false.

Or my favorites (sarcasm) that I see all the time is the expanded proverbs treated as the original, claiming that people are misquoting when they're using the actual provably original quote. Yes, the expanded ones are better... but they're not the original!

For example I commonly hear people "correct" the proverb "blood is thicker than water" to claim that it's a shortening of "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." I get pissed every time I hear that.