Skip to main content


Just giving a shout out to Fediseer.com for an interesting project (and the gui project available at fediseer.lemmings.world

If you're an instance admin I think it's worth checking out, setting up, and bookmarking for your moderation toolkit.

I don't endorse any sort of automated blocking off of said lists, but I do endorse having a database you can reference when deciding whether to defederate an instance, especially if people have filled in proof links.

Unknown parent

Shiri Bailem
@raf guaranteed and endorsed now

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


The benefits of making your wife find things (by u/Rose_XJ)

Shiri Bailem reshared this.

in reply to r/Wholesomememes (Bot)

Not that I want a ford explorer, but having the family put in €5 every time I find their stuff, is a nice idea.



Having a really low day... I could barely sleep last night, struggling with insomnia, ADHD, and pain.

Pain especially... it's finally starting to cool off a little and my chronic joint pain is through the roof, and I just got off a week of being sick with a cold.

I'm really depressed right now and feeling trapped. My car has been out of commission since February and my joint pain makes it hurt so much to walk places (and taking the bus still involves a significant amount of walking/standing)... so I've hardly left the house all year.

I hardly see anybody and I'm really lonely, if I didn't have my sibling living with me I don't know how I'd survive.

Please send some kind words to fight off the intrusive thoughts.

#disability #depression #ChronicPain

Jon_ThinksATYou reshared this.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

ugh no car is the wooorst feeling. I feel you I have the ADHD and the insomnia it comes with and it's no joke.

Sending big old hugs and I hope the weather gives you a break soon.

I've been staving off the season change doldrums I can feel coming by buying a bunch of lava lamps, but I can't recommend my methods they are always ill-advised. ❤

in reply to Shiri Bailem

I relate too well to your pain and situation. Disability is enough challenge to occupy a person without also adding financial issues and social alienation. But they all come as a package I guess. If you are feeling that spiral down into your self and the all encompassing problem, I hope that you can redirect your attention and escape into somthing lighter. If you can pull focus to a more positive anything, it can help soften the misery. Here is a picture of frogs In a witches hat for tangentially related reasons:


I'm pretty sure even AI supporters can agree we really need to institute some sort of laws around mandatory labeling of AI generated content.

#ai

#ai
in reply to Calamity Caitlin

@Calamity Caitlin you mean 80% of the reason we need such a law? (the other 20% being rampant AI generated misinformation)

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


I am fascinated by the idea of binary bathrooms with no clear/sensical segregator
Signs that have sandals or boots, mugs or flasks
So deep in convoluted nuance no one can understand it, cis or trans
in reply to Moved to alfredohno@woem.space

I feel like I could make at least as strong an argument for sandals vs boots bathrooms as people make for men's vs women's.


Dear lord... I feel the need to sit people down and do a Copyright 101 class...

I just saw someone call Creative Commons a "type" of copyright...

Only half joking, if people would actually listen I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Jason Kautz :warriors: reshared this.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

All the AI stuff, regardless of your stance on it, has really shown me how little artists understand copyright. What rights they have and what rights they do not have, and in general how any of it works.
in reply to Shiri Bailem

  • I will not mock people for not knowing any better, we don't teach this well and there are so many myths circling


New landing page text on my server, would love some feedback (this is the text shown at foggyminds.com when not logged in):

Welcome To Foggyminds!

We have open registration!

We are a leftist instance aiming to just be a nice space to occupy on the fediverse. We welcome temporary exploratory accounts and small businesses.

We try to listen to minority voices. The admin is Disabled Jewish LGBTQIA, but tries to recognize that they still have white privilege. Please report any instances of bigotry, hate, or trolling, even if subtle, to our admin at shiri (at) foggyminds (dot) com. Especially if perpetrated by our admin.

You can view our public feed here and our blocklist as well as enabled addons are provided here. While we do not permit subtle bigotry on our instance we do not block other servers aggressively for it. We are more inclined to block problem accounts specifically unless it is endemic to the instance as we understand most users on that instance are likely blind to this. If this is unacceptable, we're more than happy to be a temporary place to help you find a safer instance.



Nazi's didn't just kill the Jews, we were just the biggest target. The other targets continued to get persecuted afterwards (LGBTQ people in concentration camps were taken straight to prisons after the war!)

But by god I will use Jewish-Privilege on the topic to break down misuse of Nazi threats (ie. misapplying the Nazi/Table quote).



Reminded deeply today of the subtle insidious racism of leftists and liberals.

So many in our communities are prone to believe that they've gotten rid of their racism, and instead fuel it by demanding ideological purity and by ignoring inconvenient truths.

When a minority group says something you're doing is racist, take a minute to stop and ask yourself what you might not be seeing. And if you really can't find anything, ask for more information (but try to figure it out for yourself first, it's both polite and good exercise).

#racism #leftism #liberals

Unknown parent

Shiri Bailem

@Runyan50 I unfortunately can only say in vague terms because I'm not a member of any of those communities.

I can say social inertia is a thing, it's the reason I'm still on facebook for instance. I would have never joined in the first place if it weren't for the social weight of the platform, and I hate it every single day for it.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

@Shiri Bailem Self-reflection and facing cognitive dissonance is hard. Its easier to dismiss the person calling you out as too unenlightened like myself to see the bigger class struggle picture.

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


Elon literally blaming Jews for Twitter’s collapse.

Shiri Bailem reshared this.

in reply to JosephMenn

LOL maybe, just maybe, providing a platform for Nazis is not good business.
in reply to JosephMenn

South African History X. I think that's why he wanted to rename it.

Friendica Admins reshared this.


@Friendica Admins I'm curious for feedback about other admin's setups. I know the default choice is apache, but how many are like me running nginx + php-fpm?

I'm curious what tips and tricks people have figured out? Has anyone settled on a good stable caching config? (Last time I set up caching I tried to limit it to just static files and images, but it somehow cached some of the regular pages it seems wondering if maybe one of those css or javascript files is actually dynamic?)

As it stands my setup is two nginx webservers behind an nginx load balancer, both running php-fpm, a shared nfs media storage directory, memcached on the database server for php sessions.

in reply to Shiri Bailem Friendica Admins reshared this.

Single-user instance, but mine's just MariaDB, Nginx and (chroot'ed) PHP-FPM, all behind an haproxy front-end. It's been responsive enough I haven't felt the need to do anything extra about caching (yet!)
in reply to Pippin Friendica Admins reshared this.

@Pippin You probably never will with a single instance. I may never reach the point of it being a problem, I was just having some performance issues early on, mostly due to available memory for the database.
in reply to Shiri Bailem Friendica Admins reshared this.

@Shiri Bailem I'm another single-user instance, but it's pretty responsive and snappy with Nginx/FPM. To be honest, I haven't configured PHP on Apache in quite some time, and I expect it would be net slower just because of how Apache functions.

It was much slower before I dealt with the activitypub-troll.cf issue (they were murdering my db), it runs quite well for my needs. Might do caching and/or db replication, more as a best practice than because I think anyone will ever sign up on my instance...

I've got a cron running a version of something @Hank G ☑️ suggested in an older thread, and a few instance blocks, that also improved response times by a noticeable margin.

I'm living dangerously on develop, though I haven't pulled in a few days since it's performing much better now.



Been seeing the "Nazi Bar" analogy in regards to Twitter lately.

To recap: it's the suggestion that people remaining on Twitter are fascists or tolerating fascism for remaining much like those who visit a Nazi bar.

This is a privileged take and not a clean analogy. The bar is a non-vital space with plenty of competition, you don't have to drink, you don't have to go to that bar.

Twitter may not be as huge as Facebook and a little easier to move away from, but no place has really solidified itself as the place to go instead (despite what many think about Mastodon/Activity-Pub), and the communities still take time and effort to move.

On top of that, these places (yes FB included) have always been fascist leaning. It's just you finally hearing all the dog-whistles. So many of these communities were hearing the dog-whistles from the start but didn't have anywhere else to go, so they had to fight to establish themselves in what spaces they had.

Don't judge them for having difficulty moving and re-establishing in a new space when every space is a huge effort to claim. The fediverse isn't immune to racism and fascism, there's absolutely whole new fights to be had here against bigotry, especially the privileged neo-liberal sort.

in reply to odd_megan

leaving twitter and adopting other methods of organising is very much doable, and indded other platforms persisted and were still used by lots of communities during twitter. particularly as the tools to make your own spaces are now much more accessable than they were before twitter, i dont realy have any sympathy for the "its hard" argument. the "diaspora" argument dosnt realy work either, as these communties already existed off twitter. no new problem is being created.
in reply to odd_megan

additionally, even at the utter extreeme, say all of my friends and support were at the nazi pub, i would still stop going to the nazi pub. I have lived long streches of my life without support or friends, and its utterly doable. I would have a very hard time seeing any benefit i could derrive, even if it was my sole means of social contact and i couldnt do anything else like other websites or in person community, that would make it a good idea to stay in the nazi pub.
in reply to odd_megan

and to be clear, folks can use other websites or in person or other machanisms for community an social contact. alternatives exist, and even if they didnt, i think at this stage leaveing twitter would still be the best choice bar some extreeme i havent been able to think of even worse than loosing all social contact of any kind (which is almost definitly not going to happen to anyone due to the proliferation of alternatives)
in reply to odd_megan

@odd_megan that's not doable for everyone, and also in regards to other spaces it's mostly transitional.

This wave is still pretty new as far as broad culture goes, many are waiting and looking to see where the space will be. They're not necessarily idling, they're building those spaces elsewhere but because you can be in two places at once online, they're still over in the Twitter spaces because it's still "the space" and they need to be there to get the necessary support and also to see where people go when they leave it.

It's crucially important to not judge marginalized groups based on the standards and experiences of unmarginalized (or differently marginalized) identities.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

i duno, i think "dont support the nazis" is a fairly reasonable ask? i have family members who were tortured for sticking to that principal, and its one i would litterally die for.
in reply to odd_megan

@odd_megan I prefer Pikuach Nefesh, life is the highest commandment. If you have to deal with a Nazi business to survive and protect yourself, then you're permitted to do so... but only to the extent necessary.
in reply to Shiri Bailem

, i agree about judgeing folks in other groups, often we cant fully understand the circumstances due to distance and privilage etc. but i think humans have certain things is common, and as such somethings are kinda universal for humans, and i think supporting fash is as close as it gets to a universal absolute.
in reply to odd_megan

@odd_megan the argument is what qualifies as supporting fascism... I'd agree with you if it was people encouraging others to use Twitter, not seeking alternatives at all, etc. But not when it's "I need to use Twitter to access the support I need and there really isn't an adequate replacement yet"
in reply to Shiri Bailem

but merely having an account does help the site, as it subsists of add revenue. (i still know folks who have twitter blue, or whatever its called now, and justify it as being necessary for their buisness, which definitly counts as supporting the fash, directly, financially) even having an account, even not activly using it, still helps them pitch to advertisers.
in reply to Shiri Bailem

like most points of religious law, im sure theres a lot of discussion about exceptions, limits etc regarding that principal (i have no familiarity with it myself). its obvs a complex issue, even those who felt they had to collaborate with fash to save their own lives or the lives of others still had to undergo horrible stuff, and i wouldnt tell someone in that position they had failed moraly.
in reply to odd_megan

but at the same time, i think that someone who undergoes extreme harship, even death to avoid colaborating is doing a good thing. maybe there is some space between "non condemnable" and "good" that a person can occupy, though not particularly comfortable. i think there is an imperative to persue the good, and settling for the "not bad" is often just as bad as supporting it. I duno its tough, probably why humanity hasnt "solved" ethics yet
in reply to odd_megan

@odd_megan Pikuach Nefesh is the one law of Judaism with no exceptions, it is in fact the number one exception to all other laws.

"Life is the highest commandment" - All Jewish law cedes to the health and wellbeing of people.

If leaving Twitter would cause someone harm, then they are permitted to stay on Twitter but this does not relieve them of seeking alternatives to eventually reach a point where they can leave Twitter with little to no harm.

in reply to Shiri Bailem

from my cursory reading (very cursory, obs happy to defer to folks with more knowlage), it has to spesifically be preservation of an identifyable life, not just the avoidance of harm?
in reply to Shiri Bailem

also, Im sure the jewish community, out of all communities, has spent a lot of time thinking about fash, ones ethical obligations regarding protecting ones self and others from them, but im not familiar with it.

after thinking about it. i think this is a conversation i should back out of. I dont have sufficient knowlage expertice. its a tough question, and others have spent a lot more time on the issue than i have. sorry

in reply to odd_megan

@odd_megan It's okay, I get where you're coming from and it can be good to voice these discussions as it creates a space of learning, especially when you're willing to learn.

To clarify on Pikuach Nefesh what details are a little less obvious on a quick read:
* specific identifiable life is counter to arguments that some vague uncertain person might be harmed. Ie. it doesn't rule that you have to child proof a house that never expects to have children in it. It also doesn't cover vague potential life ("But if you do this you'd become infertile or could pass on genetic abnormalities to your future children!")
* life threatening isn't generally considered as "will cause death" but rather is interpreted typically as "lasting harm". For instance, losing a leg won't necessarily kill me... but if I would lose a leg following a commandment then Pikuach Nefesh kicks in. If giving food/money/shelter to those in need would risk my health and well being, then I can say no, but if it wouldn't then I must say yes.

In the topic of things like support networks in fascist spaces: if it would just be unpleasant to leave, then you're required to leave. But if it would cause you lasting harm to leave, then you are permitted to stay.

Also of note: Judaism still praises martyrs, we just discourage it. It's a great good (notably not a Mitzvah) to die to uphold justice and your faith... the real Mitzvah is surviving another day.




Shiri Bailem reshared this.


Comparison: Drawing #PixelArt on my phone and my PC💖 :heart_sp_les3:

I still much prefer drawing on my PC, mostly because i could add layers more easily and switch the colours around

(i will share more #Pride potions below!)

#Lesbian #LesbianFlag #PrideFlag #Queer #MastoArt

reshared this



Got me a site icon now, taken with permission from my sibling's art!

I should nab a bunch of their artwork to share here, especially since they offer prints.

Original:
A picture of a drawing superimposed on a grey brick wall of a figure wearing vague black close, long brown hair, and a cloud covering the upper half of their head
Piece: Sad Girl (modified)
Artist: Devin Bailem (they/them)


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


this is a huge story on why twitter is imploding linking in to how twitter has lead to the erosion of journalistic standards and twitter/journalists have together pushed an extreme anti-trans stance into the mainstream for financial gain to the extent that when the richest man in the world was confronted by his daughter coming out as trans, he reacted so badly that his only recourse was to buy the whole machine and try to destroy it and warp it to a far right viewpoint. And then when all the very same journalist who had been part of this merry go round of transphobia for clicks tried to jump ship to mastodon they found it was run by trans people and then complained they were being defederated from for posting the same anti-trans articles.

reshared this

in reply to CJ Bellwether

the financial, social, comfort and security upheaval of the loss of twitter for X, the sudden onslaught of far right commentators constantly in mentions, the reality of that world hitting many cis people in that way for the first time, is the closest many will get to the experience of coming out trans.
in reply to CJ Bellwether Another Angry Woman reshared this.

like journalists, X is the hell of your own creation.

It is the end result of the decade decay of journalistic integrity and standards being replaced for clicks and anger baiting.


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


BREAKING: Is going fungal the new going viral? A world champignon skater says he's convinced, click here.

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


New release of Badger Badger to celebrate 20 years. 🤭

youtu.be/sPOISnUd7WE

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


In 1997 a Reverend John Papworth told parishioners at a meeting that large supermarkets are destroying community life and that it it therefore justifiable to steal from them. He said “Jesus said, love your neighbour, not Marks and Spencers”.

“I don’t regard it as stealing. I regard it as a badly needed reallocation of economic resources.”

Unfathomably based.

reshared this






Source Link

Quoted from a facebook post by user Elraen:

I’ve threatened this digital essay for some time, and now I feel like my timeline could use some nerdom, so the moment has come: it’s time for my full defense of Frodo. 😉
I remember when I was younger, I struggled to accept and understand why a lot of my peers found Frodo either forgettable or material for mocking. I understand it a little better now: the movies DO often make him not particularly likable or watchable. The book portrays him as someone who doesn’t seem to be experiencing a reasonable range of human expression/emotion, which admittedly can make him less compelling to read about. I understand that. But I also think it’s integral to the point of the character.
Frodo and Sam are necessary for understanding each other. Sam was a character cast from the mold that Tolkien learned on the frontlines of World War I. Tolkien saw Sam as the everyday hero, the embodiment of the simple good-hearted courage of the men he watched die in the trenches. Sam’s obstacles are exterior to himself: the geography. The threat of enemy soldiers (orcs), of Shelob, of his companion's physical and mental difficulties.
By contrast, Frodo’s obstacles are primarily internal. He endured a lot of those same exterior challenges as Sam, but Sam did much to absorb their impact (see the Cirith Ungol rescue). Frodo’s challenges are the slow, steady erosion of a soul being asked to carry a tremendous internal darkness without being consumed by it. Everything he was became laser-focused on that monolithic spiritual and emotional task.
This is why, at the end, Frodo had to sacrifice far more than Sam. Because Sam’s primary struggle was against external forces, once those external forces were alleviated, he could go home, marry, have children, live as a functional member of his community. For Frodo, the cessation of exterior pressure could do nothing to mend the way his soul had been burning from the inside out.
This is a hard thing to portray in movie form (the greatest weakness of the LotR movies is their inability to portray subtlety and spirituality, two traits the narrative Tolkien crafted requires). We see Frodo’s neck chapping from the actual physical weight of the Ring as a representation; well and good. But it’s hard to truly convey the immense mental weight, the crucible of enduring without utter collapse.
If Sam is a kind of patron saint for the good-hearted soldier, I would posit that Frodo is the patron saint of the depressed, the suicidal, the addicted, the ones living with trauma. We see it best maybe at Mount Doom, where Frodo’s very self has been ground down to nearly nothing: “No taste of food, no feel of water, no sound of wind, no memory of tree or grass or flower, no image of moon or star are left to me. I am naked in the dark, Sam, and there is no veil between me and the wheel of fire. I begin to see it even with my waking eyes, and all else fades.”
If you’d ever been deeply depressed, ever lived chained in the prison of PTSD, you will have experienced that exact same thing.
And of course that’s not always the most likable thing to read about or to watch. Mental anguish has a way of stripping away so many of the human details about you, even your personality itself.
"Frodo is a study of a hobbit broken by a burden of fear and horror— broken down, and in the end made into something quite different,” J.R.R. Tolkien himself wrote.
In another letter (#246, for the curious), Tolkien addressed the concern that had been posed to him that Frodo was a weak and failed hero, that his decision at Mount Doom proved it. “I do not think that Frodo's was a moral failure,” Tolkien clarified. “At the last moment the pressure of the Ring would reach its maximum– impossible, I should have said, for any one to resist, certainly after long possession, months of increasing torment, and when starved and exhausted… I do not myself see that the breaking of his mind and will under demonic pressure after torment was any more a moral failure than the breaking of his body would have been– say, by being strangled by Gollum, or crushed by a falling rock.”
Tolkien built into Frodo a validation of the internal struggle, marking it not as weakness, but ultimately even as a special kind of strength. Through the character of Frodo, Tolkien displayed that internal anguish, fear, and pain were not moral failings. He might not have known it, but Tolkien was building an incredibly beautiful fictitious case study on the impact of trauma on the soul and the human ability to endure.
“Frodo undertook his quest out of love– to save the world he knew from disaster at his own expense, if he could; and also in complete humility, acknowledging that he was wholly inadequate to the task,” Tolkien summarized. “His real contract was only to do what he could, to try to find a way, and to go as far on the road as his strength of mind and body allowed. He did that.”
And for any of us carrying a weight of horror, trauma, grief, dread, anxiety, depression, despair— maybe our hope is the same. To do what we can. To know that, even when our minds give out under the tremendous weight, we are still enough.

#246

Left Field Farm reshared this.


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


the presence of furries in tech is problematic, but not for the reasons you might think

it's because you could probably compromise at least one multinational corporation by emailing security@ with “you'd be such a good puppy if you added me to your Okta... who's a good puppy???”

reshared this


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


There should be a rule that any media company that pulls that shit of canning completed work for the tax write-off has to make it public domain.

I mean, if they're saying for tax purposes it's worthless then they're not out anything by releasing it free and under Creative Commons, right? Right?? 🤨

reshared this

in reply to Taco Blacc

@Taco Blacc I definitely believe copyright needs a use-it-or-lose-it clause, you choose not to release it? lose copyright. You take it off the market entirely with no concrete plans to reintroduce it in a reasonable time? lose copyright

Unknown parent



You want a great debate to fall into?

Start debating someone on logical fallacies and what falls under what fallacy... the conversation is interesting to say the least lol

Unknown parent

Shiri Bailem

@milquetoast :milquetoast: This!

But in this case we were debating on exact definitions of appeal to authority, and it devolved a little because I gave the example "Are you a doctor? Because Dr. Phil says..." and they called it Ad Hominem...

We settled on it depends on the context of said statement, but it's ultimately appeal to authority in both cases, just in some contexts it's also ad hominem


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


Apologies for the inevitable pathologizing language in this paper, but I suspect my fellow #ActuallyAutistic folks might like to know that it shows a NEGATIVE correlation between #autistic traits and so-called "black-and-white" thinking. For anyone uncomfortable with the statistics speak, they found that the higher a person scores on the Autism Quotient screening test, the lower they tend to score on a black-and-white thinking test

Nature.com: Autistic traits associated with dichotomic thinking mediated by intolerance of uncertainty | Scientific Reports
nature.com/articles/s41598-023…

T. T. Perry reshared this.

in reply to Aaron ActuallyAutistic group reshared this.

Thank you for sharing! It's a really good news for us.

I archived the paper if someone need it in the future.

@hosford42

@actuallyautistic @neurodiversity @autisticadvocacy

#actuallyautistic #Autistic

reshared this

in reply to Aaron

I'm only seeing the hashtag.
There's the hastag and then there's the gup.pe group. Some people follow the hashtag and some people follow the group.

Anyway thanks for sharing, this was interesting.


Shiri Bailem reshared this.


No more excuses. Small actions can make a big difference. We recently switched to paper straws on both of my private jets.

Shiri Bailem reshared this.



Random thought of a brighter aspect of the #ai future:

We're not too far off from AI video editing, and imagine writing out a list of all your triggers, loading it into an AI, and then having it edited movies and tv shows to remove all triggering content.

#ai

Shiri Bailem reshared this.


what's a catgirls favorite handheld game console
psp

Shiri Bailem reshared this.

in reply to bite reliability engineer

re: what's a catgirls favorite handheld game console

add that there should be multiple of them

p.s. psps



My autistic accent: vaguely northern US accent (emulated mostly from TV growing up), reflexive mimicking of vocal quirks around people I particularly respect (ie. like a faint lisp, or pieces of a thick accent), naturally monotone with occasional emulated attempts at emotional inflection (not super often, I don't have the effort to emulate inflection at the same time as emulating expression and I prioritize expression), difficulty with volume control (sensory and excitement based), moderate rate of speech.

Oh, and some canned phrases/responses I've picked up over the years, though at this point I have to pay attention to notice them.

Share your accent!

#autism #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticAccent

(Out of spoons, if someone gives me an image description for the set I'll edit to add it)

instagram.com/p/CwNyY3_MR65/?i…

This entry was edited (1 year ago)




Dear god I feel like a newb... I used to do this stuff professionally and I feel the fact that it's been years.

Biggest performance issue I've had for a little while with this server turns out to be because the hypervisor copied the MAC address when I copied the server. It shouldn't have taken me nearly this long to identify this problem!

Aaaargh!



Unintentionally lewd product, only NSFW if you're kinky, someone should have asked more people for feedback on the design
This entry was edited (1 year ago)



Definitely worth the subscription!

youtu.be/PlCHRkH9tEk?si=IfiUT9…