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That feeling when you're depressed and hurting then you find out your family installed guardrails on your pit of despair


Random phone security 101, unlocking methods, please boost:

  • Biometrics: prevents casual unlocking by someone just picking up your phone, but otherwise no real security. A cop (or other assailant) can force you to unlock your phone easily (often even without a warrant)
  • Pin Code: Slightly more secure, prevents anyone from accessing easily without knowing the code. But anyone with access to your phone, time, and skill can get in. Can be significantly improved by turning on Keypad Scrambling and Distress Codes (most devices do not offer either feature without a Custom ROM, see below) and Lockouts (available much more often).
  • Password: your security is proportional to how much a pain in the ass it is to unlock your phone.
  • Two-Factor (Custom ROMs Only): by combining Biometrics and Pin Code you get security that rivals a secure password while still being almost as convenient as a pin code.
  • Pattern Unlock: Just don't, it's honestly probably better to use just Biometric over this

Explanations:

  • Keypad Scrambling: This feature re-arranges the keypad on your lock screen. Downside is you can't unlock from muscle memory, but upside is that no one can unlock your phone from smudge patterns.
  • Distress Code: This is a second pin code that when entered will instead erase your phone instead of unlocking it. They can't tell which is which until your phone is being erased. Also increases security on brute forcing as there's a chance they accidentally erase your phone in the process.
  • Lockout: This is where your phone prevents access after a certain number of failed login attempts. It significantly slows down brute force attacks. Phones with this feature will usually either force you to enter a more secure password after this limit is hit, but some offer the option to automatically erase your phone.
  • Custom ROMs: these are alternate systems you can install on your phone, usually variants of Android. They often offer more features and security than your phone normally has, but there are unfortunately some tradeoffs due to Google's demand for control (example is you can't use tap-to-pay with a Custom ROM)

#Security



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Random bit of trans vocabulary as I've recently seen people rejecting a phrase because they were confused by it.

"Socialized male" and "socialized female" aren't synonyms for someone's sex, they are experiences and culturally relevant.

People are confused because the term "socialize" has multiple meanings.

One is something done by you: "I was socializing with my friends"

One is something done to you: "I was socialized as a man"

To summarize Webster respectively:

The first is "to participate actively in a social group"

The second is "to fit or train for a social environment'

We say someone is "Socialized Male" or "Socialized Female" not to indicate what their sex is, but to indicate that in their formative years they were saddled with the expectations and treatment associated with "male" or "female" in our society.

The trans women getting confused think it means something like "grew up as men" or that our social groups were men, and that's not at all it.

It means we were treated as men.

We usually grew up with more women in our social circles than men, even if we didn't know we were trans yet. We were often seen as an exception, which means even our acceptance was flavored by it.

What "socialized male" means to me is that I grew up being labeled a predator and a threat by default.

Even if I wasn't specifically raised such, I was still affected by the fact that so many men were raised to believe it was okay to lie, cheat, and manipulate to abuse women. And because of that there was literally nothing I could say or do to convey that I was being genuine because far too many were dishonest about it.

I had to build entire patterns and routines of behavior around how to behave around women to make them feel safer, almost always to my personal detriment.

I to this day am still anxious and hesitant in so many interactions because for decades of my life they were forbidden to me because they were far too likely to make someone I care about feel unsafe.

When I say I was "socialized male" it means that was something done to me. I had to figure out how to navigate life and survive while being forced into a traumatic box by society that didn't remotely fit me.

#Trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA

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in reply to Juniper 🏳️‍⚧️🌲 (baking?)

So overall, saying that trans women have male socialization is inaccurate and harmful. It ascribes a similarity to the experience of cis boys that does not exist, and it gives license to treat trans women as being really or essentially men. I think that what you are talking about fits better under what I understand as gender assignment rather than socialization. I think it is common to treat gender assignment as something that happens in the moment when an M or an F is recorded on our birth certificates and then is done. But really in just about every social interaction we have (there may be some spaces, particularly queer ones, where this happens less), the people around us will try to figure out what gender box we fit into. They assign us a gender. From that assignment, they will derive expectations of how we will act and how they should treat us. Because most people's gender boxes are a strict binary, many trans girls will have the experience of being assigned male across many interactions, same as cis boys. But they will often not react to this assignment in the way that cis boys do, so they will not receive the same socialization as cis boys. 2/2
in reply to Juniper 🏳️‍⚧️🌲 (baking?)

@Juniper 🏳️‍⚧️ ugh... socialization has absolutely no reference to how we respond to it.

This is an actual academic sociology/psych term and is entirely about the environment we were raised and the expectations we were raised with.

For instance, someone who grows up in a conservative household and community is socialized conservative, this is regardless of whether they ever accepted any of it.

If you're assigned male across the majority of your interactions growing up, that's what this means. It doesn't mean you are a man, it means you had to deal with the traumas of being treated as one.

And yes, this is something that's shared with cis boys, because it's not about how we responded to it.

Like I've said elsewhere, if we transition early and are accepted then we don't deal with it because we get socialization that matches our real identity.

Saying trans female socialization literally means that we were raised with the expectations that we would act and behave as other trans femmes.

I'm American, I was socialized hyper-capitalist... does that make me a capitalist? No. It means I dealt with the expectations and trauma of hyper-capitalist expectations being put on me.

What about being socialized Christian (which basically means growing up in a Christian, even non-practicing, home), does that make me not Jewish? Nope. Do I get "Christian Privilege" for it? Hell no. Does that mean people can call me Christian? Still no.

And we do end up with many of the traumas of cis boys/men, the difference is for us is that it's in stark relief as we move away from those expectations and re-socialize ourselves.

Socialization is explicitly the expectations that were put on us and not how we responded to them.

If you want to talk about socialization specifically in how we responded to it? It's failed socialization, they wanted us to be men and we rejected it, they failed. But failure doesn't mean we didn't deal with them trying, it just means it didn't take.